IF ONLY I HAD LISTENED: GROUNDS FOR MARRIAGE II

About the Book

This is a book intended to help people think two or three times before getting married. The book challenges the separation of societal romanticism from love and sex. The basic question is, Are you in it for sex or are you in love? Is it commitment or is it lust? The heart of the matter is one’s expectations. What we can bring into the marriage and what we are willing to commit to it are always in central focus. Crosby treats many of the usual and unusual challenges that we encounter whenever we join forces with a partner. This second edition includes a new chapter on traditional defense mechanisms. Passive-aggressiveness, dependence, obsessive-compulsiveness, and paranoia are reviewed as barriers to solid marital communication.

About the Author

John F. Crosby served as a Presbyterian Minister for eleven years before leaving the ministry for teaching in the area of marriage and family development and marriage and family therapy. Crosby taught at Indiana University for six years and the University of Kentucky for sixteen years, serving seven years as Chair of he Department of Family Studies. He won a Senior Class Council teaching award at IU and a Great Teacher Award at UK in1979. Crosby served as a regional officer in the American Association For Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) 1988-1992. Crosby is the author of 13 books, (Three in theology, 4 edited volumes, and one book of fiction (Divided We Stood) A Tale of Lee’s Lost Orders 191. Crosby is married to Marjorie Eastwick and has three grown sons.