Parenting With Love
Discussions on How to Create A Legacy Of Love For Your Children
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As I look back, deeply impressed in my mind, are vivid images and memories of my children at various stages in their lives as they were growing up. I shall never forget the first time I saw each of them, just after they were born, the way they looked as toddlers, kindergarteners, school-age kids, adolescents, college students, and how they looked on their wedding day. Now two of them have children of their own. It is difficult to describe the great pleasure I feel reflecting back on these memories. Ecstasy is the best adjective I can think of at the moment. I also remember some of the hard parts of raising our children—the long nights when they were ill, their squabbles between themselves, all the messes I had to clean up, getting up when they cried in the middle of the night, postponing many of my own desires and pleasures to take care of theirs, the fatigue I felt for so many years, and the tremendous responsibility of raising three children. I also remember the deep attachment I had to them and they to me when they were little, the deep sense of pride and admiration I had for them as they grew in strength and independence, my hopes, my fears, and my dreams for them. As a parent, I experienced it all—the pleasures, the hard work, the trials and the challenges; and I have grown through the process of raising my children. They have learned from me, and I have learned even more from them. Being a mother summoned up many old memories and feelings from my childhood, and commanded me to deal with these. I could no longer be a little girl or be taken care of. I was responsible for caring for three totally helpless infants. I had to be strong and reliable. After all, my children needed me. I beckoned to their calls and I gave them my all. Giving to them has given more to me. My endless and unselfish giving to them has expanded my own life, and I have no regrets. Nothing could have given me the enormous sense of satisfaction and fulfillment that I felt watching our three children grow into warm, loving, responsive, compassionate, caring, independent, healthy and capable human beings.
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By working as a therapist, with families for over thirty-five years, Florence Bienenfeld, Ph.D., M.F.T. has put together the definitive guide for raising children to become loving and empowered adults. Using anecdotal case studies and contextual principles, Parenting with Love will teach you as parents: • How to create trust between you and your children • How to address each child as special and unique • Strategies that work to create harmony and security with your child • How to juggle your parenting with your life • How to let go of family patterns that don’t work • How to create the strongest love bond possible Parenting with Love is dedicated to parents and their children. Without a doubt, parents are the greatest givers, the bravest heroes and heroines, and the greatest jugglers on Earth, and their children are the neediest humans on the planet, every day in every way.
About the Author
Dr. Florence Bienenfeld has been a marriage, family, and child counselor for over forty years and served as a senior family counselor and mediator for the Conciliation Court of Los Angeles County for eleven years. She has counseled thousands of families and is the author of My Mom and Dad Are Getting a Divorce (AuthorHouse, 2002), a healing book about divorce for children ages four to twelve and their parents; Child Custody Mediation: Techniques for Mediators, Judges, Attorneys, Counselors and Parents (AuthorHouse 2002); Helping Your Child Through Your Divorce, a complete guide to helping children deal with divorce (Hunter House, Inc., 1995); Do-It-Yourself Conflict Resolution for Couples, a dynamic couple’s guide for resolving disagreements amicably and clearing away resentments (Career Press, 1999); Creating the Life you Want to Live (AuthorHouse, 2013). She and her husband, Mickey, also authored three cookbooks: The Vegetarian Gourmet (AuthorHouse 2013) (first edition sold over 65,000 copies); Healthy Baking (AuthorHouse 2013); and Mother Nature’s Garden (AuthorHouse 2013). The American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) also certifies Dr. Bienenfeld in clinical hypnosis. Presently, she is in private practice in Pacific Palisades, California, specializing in short-term therapy, couple and family mediation, and child-custody mediation. In addition to being a therapist and author, Dr. Bienenfeld has been lecturing on cruise ships since 1990; leads seminars for groups; and has been blessed with a happy marriage, three children, and six grandchildren.