Chapter 1
"Holiness or Hollywood?"
My first true encounter with the supernatural power of God happened in May of 2003. I had not yet fully given my life to Christ and I was knee deep in sin. At the time I was living with my daughter's mother. Je'Naiya was about to turn 2 years old and my 25th birthday was a couple of days away. Je'Naiya's mother and I had been dating since 1996 when I first began college. I was only 18 when I met her, young and bright-eyed. She on the other hand was a 21-year-old Goddess in my book. I didn't know it at the time but we would soon make a lot of mistakes in our relationship due to not having a true relationship with God. Although neither of us was saved yet, we both lived the best way we knew how, but in the process we did irreversible damage to our relationship. So much damage that even when we both decided to live saved it seemed to be too much holding on to the pain of the past for our relationship to stand a chance. So our marriage ended.
Chapter 2
Marriage: “Until Self Do We Part”
Bells ringing, soft music, flames flickering from candles, teary-eyed parents, cameras flashing--it all equals up to one thing: the day every woman dreams of and every man dreads, a wedding day. Seriously though, if you were anything like me as a child you played house where you were the Daddy(or Mommy) and another child was the Mama(or Daddy) while two random kids played the role of the children. Most kids go through this process attempting to portray a family and most of us grow up wanting just that: to be married, with a couple of kids, a nice home, and a secure job. So if these are the goals most of us had as young people, how is it that 40 % to 50% of our marriages are failing? This number isn't just figures of those who are non-believers, it's even been said that 30 to 40 percent of Christian marriages are failing as well depending on the study you choose to look at. If marriage is ordained by God and the spring-board for life, how can so many be ending in failure? You probably think I'm going to say the Church is at fault. Well, you're wrong. I don't think the Church is at fault completely, but I do think we have a responsibility to right this wrong.
Chapter 5
"Tithing or Tipping”
Believe it or not, I almost didn't put this chapter in here. I almost allowed the enemy to deceive me into believing that I should not add it because I would not get the support of Church leaders because it could possibly mess with their finances in the Church. Then the spirit of God touched me on the shoulder and said, "You are missing a chapter." Honestly, I almost forgot I wrote this chapter and even when I looked it over again, the enemy tried his best to convince me not to add it. But, God says otherwise so I must obey.
I know this is a touchy subject. I know that most churches teach that tithing is a duty and I agree. I'm ok with that. But what I'm not ok with is the focus of the tithe and the reasons taught to the saints as to why we tithe. This is an issue that many people are divided on. Some believe the tithe to be a commandment of God, while others think that tithing is always a choice. What do I believe? I'll just say that I think tithing is a choice that every Christian should choose to make. Notice that I said should make and not must make.
Chapter 6
"Homosexuals in Heaven?”
In looking at the title for this chapter I know quite a few of you all may be a little uncomfortable right now. How on earth can I have the audacity to say such a thing as this? I know it's a bit controversial, but it's something that has to be talked about. Today's society is beginning to argue that homosexuality is an acceptable act. Some churches are even embracing this idea by appointing some of its leaders to positions of authority who are known to be living an openly homosexual lifestyle. Last week I even saw a clip of two men of clergy on a very popular talk show saying that being a homosexual is a gift. The bible clearly teaches throughout its books that homosexuality is a sin in God's eyes. So, how have we as a Church come to this place of confusion on this issue? Well, I have a theory, and the Church itself may be to blame.