"Love Is Not as Complicated as You Make It"

Society has taught us to join this roller coaster of marriage and divorce. How is it possible that our parents and grandparents have maintained a marriage facing the same issues we face today? I admit that times have changed and what was done then may not be done today still that shouldn't create a problem in staying together. One thing they were able to do back then is work it out no matter what the issue was they decided to work through it and preserve and respect their marital union. I urge you to look inside yourself and make a decision today regarding your relationship. You may see no wrong now, just read this book and honestly look at self and then make an informed decision about your life and relationship. I never planned to be gentle I fully intended to hit where it hurts. Sometimes the pain of recognizing mistakes within ourselves is just what we need to help fix the problems we face in this thing called Love. There are several topics that I would like us to indulge ourselves so that we can understand love and fix whatever it is we are going through at this present time. We call ourselves adults and yet we still behave like we're children and that's not the funny thing. The hilarious part of that story is that most of us are raising children. As life has told us so many times before that those children we raise will one day grow up to be confused adults just like US. In order for me to know and understand this theory I myself had to have lived this life or similar to it. I witnessed countless times over and over relationships around me die and wither away because of the lack of love and compromise. Family and friends crying because they put themselves in situations that not even they recognized that it was their fault. Hearing daily on the radio or television songs that seize their moment of despair, people around them playing into that moment of desperiation confiscating their ability to make rational decisions for their lives. Instead of those people being uncaring and dishonest they should be people of compassion and love. That will not happen because they never learned how to give true love themselves. "who was there to give them real love"?

When you  decide to give all your love to someone and for whatever reason you decide it should be you and your mate who makes decisions about your life. Just keep in mind that the people you bring into your life will be in the lives of those around you. When making a choice on who you decide to date exclusively you should always take into consideration on whether or not they fit into your life completely. If you are a person who comes from a family oriented background why would you date someone who hates family gatherings and being around people? I urge you to stop giving your time to people who may not fit the design of your life, remember you cannot change them into who you would like for them to be. I promise you that people are going to be who they are regardless what you do for them or how you treat them. If you are with a selfish person no matter how much you try to give and show them different they will continue to be selfish until they are willing to change. YOU ARE NOT GOD! Although you may be able to encourage someone, the change they make must come from within otherwise who they were will resurface just like the stain on a carpet no matter how well you pre-treat it if you don't lift the stain from the inner most core of the carpet it will resurface after a while. Keep in mind that even after all of that you still may have to replace the carpet all together. So stop placing yourself in situations that you cannot fix hoping you can.