As I have always been aware of this unique power of physical communication, I have felt more confident in business. I knew I could 'connect' with business people on an intangible level. This has helped me win accounts and persuade prospects to work with me. Nothing is more powerful testimony than that these techniques have worked for twenty-five years to help make me successful in a highly competitive field.
Now success in business is coming even more easily for me because I have discovered the secrets of male body language. I now know how to stimulate immediate positive relationships with women. I feel confident from the moment I meet a woman that she will feel predisposed positively toward me.
This knowledge has created a breakthrough in my own life and in my career. It is nothing less than a major personal discovery that is enhancing all my interpersonal relationships with women.
I will provide many examples in this book of situations in which female strangers have come to my assistance, paid special attention to me, or extended a personal courtesy to me within a few minutes of me being in their presence. This is a new experience for me. It feels good. It was not always this way in dealing with women. In certain social situations, I failed miserably with women. At times, the same may have you happened to you. If you are confident meeting men, but not women, this book holds a special message for you.
I'm sure many men have experienced situations in which women have taken an instant dislike to them. Perhaps you have, too.
I always felt puzzled after such an encounter. What had I done wrong? In some cases, I didn't even get a chance to say a few words.
I have reasoned over the years that I must be doing something wrong in the body language department that affects women negatively. But what was it? This is a maddening question because you seldom get a second chance to ask the woman involved what caused her negative reaction. From what I have said so far, I am sure you could see that I would be willing to make a change if it would improve my success when communicating to women. But without a clue to my error, I could not figure out what I should do differently.
Then something happened, almost by accident.
I began to find the answers I have been seeking for years. The first clue came to me after a successful business meeting with a woman manager. She was a very difficult person to deal with, and I was warned about her highly critical nature before my first meeting with her.
The first meeting went better than expected. I was trying harder than usual to accommodate to her. I sat differently. I stood differently. I wanted her to know I was listening to her and responding to her needs.
After my second meeting with her, she began to seek my advice. She went out of her way to flatter me and my knowledge of her marketing problem. She was more anxious to hear my solutions. She was absolutely pleasant, smiled a great deal, and mixed in light conversation about home and family. At one point, she had to answer a telephone at a desk away from where we were seated. She bent to reveal her clevage and ample breasts while on the phone, giving me a long provocative look, smiling at me from time to time. She knew what I could see. She held that pose for several minutes while talking on the telephone, even though she could have turned away and continue talking. She wanted me to enjoy her body.
I remember going home that evening wondering about her behavior. What had I done to cause her to be so open, friendly and even provocative toward me? I sat for several hours thinking about it. I was like a scientist studying the results of an experiment. After hours of thinking, I isolated several specific poses and movements I had made in the presence of this woman over the course of our meetings. I practiced each one of these movements, adjusting feet, legs, arms, head and chest. I decided to use these same body language techniques with other women. These planned movements have become the basis of a behavior model which men can follow as a starting point. After several weeks and many successes, I began to share this behavior model with other men. They, too, experienced remarkable results. Women have become more friendly, open and accommodating. You will learn about these experiences through the course of this book. My discoveries have changed me. Now women are predisposed to meet me within minutes after I enter a room. Today, I can tell you that I, and the other men who are using these techniques, have had many positive encounters with women. We are gaining a new advantage in business and in our personal relationships.
It no longer surprises me that a woman will suddenly approach me, reach over and touch me, or sit beaming and bubbly beside me while pouring out all kinds of personal thoughts. My initial analyses of certain body language led to further experimentation. I have wanted to prove that the results of purposeful encoding of body language toward women are reproducible. I found they are. The men with whom I have shared this knowledge report similar findings.