It's A Man Thing
A Woman's Guide to Understanding Men
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I felt this book needed to be written for several reasons. One is to try to understand why men do the things they do. But then I realized we could never understand a man's logic. Then I thought it might help younger women get through life with their man if they had guidance from women who’ve been doing it for years, But men’s logic changes so fast that no one could keep up with them. Finally, I decided the book needed to be written just so every woman, who has a man in her life, will know she’s not alone in this world. Let me tell you a little bit about myself. I'm not a writer. The most I’ve written in my adult life is letters to family members who live out of town, and an occasional letter of complaint to a company. I’ve been married to a wonderful man since 1977. We have no children, but we do have two dogs ("the girls"), that seem to run our lives. So we feel the girls are our children. Dan is a very loving, caring, giving, and supportive man. He works very hard at both his job and at home. I believe men think differently when they’re getting paid to do something than when they’re at home. But that’s my opinion. I’ve been told that I’m a very organized person. I like to know what and where things are. Dan is very organized when it comes to the tools in his shop and what he has going on at work. I’ve found that you can move into a new home at the same time as your husband, but he’ll have no idea where anything is. I always ask Dan if he just moved in. His reply is always "yes". I think this works the first year, but after that, they’d better learn where things are kept. I really didn't pick up on this "man thing" for quite a few years. I’ve thought about it and have come to the conclusion that God knew women would be there to guide the men of the world through life. Don't get me wrong, men can be very smart if it’s something they like or are interested in. But look out when it’s something they don't want to do. I'm not sure if men truly believe that we like doing all this stuff, or if they just don't think about it. I'm leaning towards the latter. I can't tell you when I started using the phrase "It's A Man Thing", but it fit so well in so many situations. When I’d say it to another woman, she knew just what I was talking about. I wish I could tell you how many times I said I was going to write "It's A Man Thing" book and all the women who said they wanted to contribute to it. So one day I decided it was time to get serious about writing this book. I wrote a short letter asking for "It's A Man Thing" ditties from any woman who has a man in her life and does not understand their logic. If there was a definition for "It's A Man Thing", it’d probably take up several pages in the dictionary, but to try to explain it briefly, "it's a man thing" is anything that makes sense to a man, but makes no sense to a woman. I truly believe men have these invisible blinders that they’re able to put on their heads at any time and only see what they want to see. I’m also baffled by the logic a man can come up with to explain himself. The sad part is, he truly believes what he’s telling you. When Dan and I were talking about me writing this book, I told him I thought he was one of the most perfect husbands there was. After a few minutes, he said "what do you mean, one of the most perfect husbands, aren't I the most perfect husband?" This was my mistake. There’s no perfect husband, and now his ego has grown. In each chapter I’ve tried to share experiences I’ve had with "It's A Man Thing", shared other women's stories they’ve told me, or have given my opinion on the subject. I have to admit that when I sat down to write, many memories came rushing in. I'm so glad I had these things happen to me. Think of it -- where would the man be today without the woman in his life? I’d like to thank my husband, Dan for giving me the idea to write this book. No, he didn't come out and say "write a book", but without him saying and doing all those "It's A Man Thing" during our married life, I wouldn’t have come up with the idea. Thank you for all your love, humor, tenderness, support, and contributions to this book that you’ve given me throughout these years. I want to thank every woman who jumped at the chance to contribute their "It's A Man Thing" ditties to this book. Finally, I need to thank every man who does or says the It's A Man Thing. Without them, what would the women in their lives do the rest of the day?
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About the Book
Trying to live with men and understanding their logic has stumped women for centuries. We have finally come to a point in life where we feel comfortable talking about it with others. Okay, maybe we aren’t comfortable talking about it, but have found it necessary to seek help and understanding from others. At least we can find comfort in knowing that we are not alone when it comes to dealing with men. They are different and yet so much alike. You will laugh and maybe even sympathize when you read the true It’s a Man Thing ditties written in this book.
About the Author
Ruth Geiken was married for nearly two decades when she decided to sit down with other women and ask them to share their It’s a Man Thing stories with her. What she found was that most women are going through the same thing in life when dealing with a man. And the best way to handle this is to have a sense of humor.