About to be a Dad!
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A little while ago, I was feeling a bit detached from the relationship that had started to form between Rena and our child. I felt like a spectator and not an active participant. I am assuming that, due to yesterday’s events, I am beginning to connect with the baby. Yesterday, all three of us, as a family, got moving to find out what is wrong with one of us. We had to make the impossible possible in order to protect this little creature that we are about to bring into this world, without even asking it. Surely, I would have preferred to have bonded with the baby as a result of a moment of unparallel happiness rather than of a few moments of unbearable agony. But life is not a bed of roses for any of us. Events usually gain up on us and catch us off guard. Fortunately, we had a happy ending. The whole process that all three of us went through to get to the happy ending may have been hurtful but it brought us all closer together.
Actually, coming to think about it, now I will have ammunition for sending my child on guilt trips when it will be a teenager and will no longer listen to us. When it becomes all rebellious and acts irresponsibly, I will say:
- You should be ashamed of yourself, treating us like this…are you forgetting that when you were still in the womb you scared us to death? …we ran around panicked all over Athens to visit the best doctors to see if you were OK…and this is the “thank you”?...is that what I expected of my child?....
Did that freak you out? Do you have memories of your parents scorning you in a similar way? Or even worse, do you remember yourself talking to your kids like that? What can parents do? Sometimes, when they are desperate or feel that they are not on top of the game, they may have to resort to such measures.
They don’t mean it, believe me. I would do anything to make sure my baby is all right and I haven’t even seen it, I haven’t even held it in my arms yet. I found the strength to do it and I would find more if I had to. Where from? From the endless power source that was mentioned before, the Babysource!
All Mighty Babysource, I say a prayer to you,
I ask of you to give me strength,
I ask of you to give me patience,
I plead that you give me knowledge,
To care for my baby, to love my child,
To stay up at night, to feed and clean it,
To be creative and inventive of solutions when I am ignorant and weak,
All Mighty Babysource, show me the way,
To keep the diaper on, to warm the milk right,
To smell the flowers in my baby’s poop,
To laugh when it pees on me,
To smile when it pukes on me,
Last but not least All Mighty Babysource,
I ask of you to be endless, now and forever!
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About the Book
If you think that a man is indifferent to the fact that he is going to be a father because he doesn’t have the maternal instinct, then you need to read this book. It is the stripping down of a man’s psyche, a man about to become a father. The paternal instinct changed him for ever...before the child came!
When my wife and I decided to have a child, my feelings were so intense that I felt I would burst from joy, agony, sweet anticipation and…fear! Would I be able to support my pregnant wife and understand what she is going through? How involved could I be in the incredible changes in her body and mind? Would I be strong enough to prepare for the coming of a child and worthy of the gift that Mother Nature decided to bless us with?
About the Author
Yiannis Parassiris was born in Canada in 1974 but lived most of his life in Greece and now resides in the island of Samos in Greece. He had his post secondary education in Canada at the University of Windsor, Ontario. Apart from teaching, his line of work has mostly been in sales working as an executive in many levels in different companies. Now he is working as a Sales Manager for the wines of Samos. This is his first book.
His inspiration to write is owed to his expecting to be a father for the first time. The writing started with the purpose of recording the overwhelming emotions of becoming a father so that one day he would give this “diary” to his child. He considered it a future present for his child who would be able to read many years after it was born what its parents and, more specifically, its father, went through during the pregnancy, emotionally and physically. When the diary started becoming larger, he thought to himself: “Why not publish it and help some other dads-to-be out there?”
Although Yiannis has no previous experience in writing, he feels that the direct way he is communicating in writing is the perfect way to convey his love for children and his support to other men out there who consider fatherhood to be the most important element in a man’s life.