Cracking the Code of Success

One of the most destructive and devastating enemies of goal setting and achieving are self-defeating thoughts. Those thoughts that say to yourself, "I can’t do it," "I’ll never be successful," "I’ll try, but I’m not sure I can do it." These thoughts will kill any chance for success and assure your failure. Never allow these thoughts to live in your mind. Fight all temptations to fall into this trap.

Remember what you say to yourself you become. What you think of yourself you are. So negative thoughts, fear and doubt must be exorcised from your mind. There is no need to be afraid of failing. Failure is only an opportunity to start again. Show me a person that never failed and I’ll show you a person that never did anything. A certain amount of failure is needed if you are ever to be truly successful. One of the best ways to learn is from failure because it teaches better than any other experience. When you learn from failing you never forget the lesson. You control your life; you are the master of your fate. Do not allow negative emotions or thoughts to enter your thinking.

Can you imagine if some of the great people of history would have listened to the negative people in their lives? What if Columbus would have listened to the vast majority of the people of his time? Who knows when the New World would have been discovered? What if Henry Ford would have quit after failing a few times? The automated assembly line and perhaps the industrial revolution would have been set back for years. What if President Reagan would have listened to the naysayers of his time? Those people that never had the foresight to see that the cold war could be won? If he had listened to those people the Soviet Union and communism would still be in existence. These great people didn’t let negative thoughts or negative people stop them from pursing success.

There will always be negative people in and out of your life. People that say, "You will never be successful." "You can’t do that." Jealous people that love to be dream wreckers. Don’t associate with negative people. Get them out of your life. If you associate with people with negative attitudes they will only destroy your positive attitude. Don’t waste your time trying to change them. They probably don’t want to change. They are probably happy blaming everyone else for their miserable lives, rather that taking the blame and making the necessary changes to improve themselves. Just avoid them. If they are part of your family be nice, but keep your distance and do not associate with them except when absolutely necessary, because they will attempt to bring you down and they will be a negative influence.

Don’t get caught in the "victim" thinking. If you take complete responsibility for your life and the direction your life takes, you will never need to look for someone else to blame if you temporarily fail. You are the only person responsible for your actions. You and you alone are responsible for the choices you make. Once you realize this and take complete responsibility for all you actions and choices, you become very liberated and very careful to make choices and take actions that will lead to success.

Justification is a powerful negative emotion. We can always justify an act or a decision that is detrimental to another or ourselves by finding a reason that is not a fault of our own. When we do this we make a "victim" of ourselves.

Rationalization is another negative emotion that has no place in a positive person’s mind. We can rationalize just about anything. For example, "My Company never helps me so I missed my sales plan." If your company doesn’t support you, change companies. Don’t try to rationalize your failure.

All of these negative emotions can be placed under one large category heading, namely BLAME! Promise yourself, right now, never to blame anyone for your inability to succeed. Once you proclaim to yourself that you will never again blame someone else for your failures, you will have gained your psychological freedom, and you are now free to succeed.

Eliminating bad habits is an essential element in order to attain your goals. Many of us get caught up in activities unassociated with our goals. Weather your sleeping too late into the morning, staying up too late at night or watching too much TV or some other useless way of spending your time, stop! In order to succeed you must have discipline. Analyze your habits and eliminate those are harmful to your success. Always ask yourself the following question, "What is the best use of my time, right now?" Then take action!