Unspoken Truths About Life After Birth

CHAPTER 6-

The Dreaded “Back to Work”

The topic of going back to work after having started a family was a very touchy one at my house. Every family member will feel differently about whether or not the ‘right’ thing to do after having a baby is to go back to work. Some of my friends say that they have to go to work to escape the monotony of staying home all day. Others say that they really enjoy their work and need that time away from home to have their “own life.” Still, more often than not, most of my friends are stuck in the predicament I find myself in: “If ONLY I could afford to stay home, I’d be there this very minute.” I say these words at least once a week, and yet, here I am working fulltime every day away from home. I think the issue of “back to work” that women face these days is very two-sided and hard to address.

First, if you are like me, you went to college to gain an education in hopes of landing a good career to make money for your household......

CHAPTER 7

Breastfeeding and Pumping

I got out of the gym shower one morning and proceeded to my bench in the locker room where I dried off and got dressed for the day. I inspected my breasts and tucked them in my bra and felt of them to see if the milk had already let down (it usually does in the shower) and I suddenly caught a glimpse of my self in the mirror. “Do most people touch their breasts?” I begin to look around, “Was all that fondling necessary?” Or was I just so used to touching myself from feeding Nathaniel that I completely forgot the rest of America could be watching me and thinking, ‘What on earth is she doing over there?’”

It is true that your breasts are the objects of someone’s desire! And, it is not your husband’s…..but your sweet little infant’s. You will probably be pumping, squeezing and holding your breasts more in the next year than you will in your whole lifetime ..........

CHAPTER 10

Don’t forget about YOU!

Okay, it goes without saying that you are obviously in a marital relationship. If you are pregnant and with child, the next nine or ten months of your life will be totally consumed with the changes of your body and your mind. And then…when baby arrives you will experience even more changes and more “sacrifices” to meet everyone else’s needs. -Particularly, the needs of your new little one. Though these feelings and changes that are happening in your life are in fact the most important changes in your life, you must remember one key piece of advice: NEVER LET GO OF WHO YOU ARE! Why do I think that this would happen to any of us? As relationships change and grow, we all change to make relationships with others work.

Why, in a book about children, do I include this topic? We as mothers give of ourselves so selflessly and without thought. We do what is inherent to nature, we give!

CHAPTER 11

Can this Marriage Survive?

I have come to the very real conclusion in life that each of our marriages is what we make them. You have the power to choose to invest your time and energy toward a positive relationship called “marriage” or face an eventual negative outcome we refer to as “divorce.” You have to continually feed the “fire” you want to grow in a relationship. You also have to sacrifice or be able to ‘meet in the middle’ in a successful relationship. Ask of yourself no less than you would ask of your insurance agent who insures your home! Be sure you are investing your time and care in your marriage. It can be both as fragile as glass and as strong as steel.

#3 problem in a marriage:

SEX

Why cover the topic of sex in a book about life after birth? Truth is sex is either non-existent at this point or banging with exuberance (pardon the pun). Sex is such a weird and taboo topic, that I almost hesitate to cover it; yet, it is up there in the list of making a marriage “work” after having children. I only have a few things to say about sex because I do not in any way profess to be a “sexpert.”