As part of my college education, I studied philosophy. Its focus was on intellectual training and developing my ability to explain things logically and rationally. Feelings were often considered unreliable and thus of limited value. However, in real life, my feelings have been the foundation for some of the best and most durable decisions I have ever made. My long-term commitments have my feelings written all over them.
To get in touch with one’s feelings, one could even begin by asking oneself questions such as, “Why have I woken up feeling tired this morning?” The next step would be to ask,
“When do I wake up tired?” It could be that I have a staff meeting every Friday afternoon, and this meeting is often contentious and emotionally draining. I believe this is the beginning of a person’s self-awareness and gradual development of the ability to understand the range of one’s feelings.
This is the manner in which an expert functions. An expert is a person who has a reservoir of knowledge and experience in a particular field that they can always turn to in order to be able to make the necessary associations and interpretations. People who have mastered their feelings can examine their life experiences and learn to make associations, differentiate patterns, and interpret situations to get meaning out of them.
About the Author
Dr. Robert Obol Nyeko was born in December 1971 in the Kitgum District of Northern Uganda. He is the firstborn of the nine children of Mary Tina Obol and Andrew P.K. Obol and is a Roman Catholic priest. Dr. Nyeko completed his training for the Catholic priesthood in his home country and was ordained a priest on August 18, 2001.
After his ordination, he was immediately assigned to serve as an associate pastor at Pajule parish, located in the archdiocese of Gulu. Of the three years he served in the parish before he came to the United States, only his first five months as a newly ordained priest proved to be peaceful. The rest were marked by war and violence when the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA) returned from their bases in South Sudan to Uganda to wage war and Pajule parish suddenly became the epicenter of the conflict.