Trust Your Feelings!

Name: Trust Your Feelings!
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Author: Dr. Robert Obol Nyeko
ISBN: 9781728314273

Why It Matters

by Dr. Robert Obol Nyeko

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Language : English

Publication Date : 7/31/2019

Format : Hardcover

Dimensions : 6x9

Page Count : 108

ISBN : 9781728314273

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Dimensions : 6x9

Page Count : 108

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Page Count : 108

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About the Book

As part of my college education, I studied philosophy. Its focus was on intellectual training and developing my ability to explain things logically and rationally. Feelings were often considered unreliable and thus of limited value. However, in real life, my feelings have been the foundation for some of the best and most durable decisions I have ever made. My long-term commitments have my feelings written all over them. To get in touch with one’s feelings, one could even begin by asking oneself questions such as, “Why have I woken up feeling tired this morning?” The next step would be to ask, “When do I wake up tired?” It could be that I have a staff meeting every Friday afternoon, and this meeting is often contentious and emotionally draining. I believe this is the beginning of a person’s self-awareness and gradual development of the ability to understand the range of one’s feelings. This is the manner in which an expert functions. An expert is a person who has a reservoir of knowledge and experience in a particular field that they can always turn to in order to be able to make the necessary associations and interpretations. People who have mastered their feelings can examine their life experiences and learn to make associations, differentiate patterns, and interpret situations to get meaning out of them.

About the Author

Dr. Robert Obol Nyeko was born in December 1971 in the Kitgum District of Northern Uganda. He is the firstborn of the nine children of Mary Tina Obol and Andrew P.K. Obol and is a Roman Catholic priest. Dr. Nyeko completed his training for the Catholic priesthood in his home country and was ordained a priest on August 18, 2001. After his ordination, he was immediately assigned to serve as an associate pastor at Pajule parish, located in the archdiocese of Gulu. Of the three years he served in the parish before he came to the United States, only his first five months as a newly ordained priest proved to be peaceful. The rest were marked by war and violence when the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA) returned from their bases in South Sudan to Uganda to wage war and Pajule parish suddenly became the epicenter of the conflict.

Customer Reviews

The author; Nyeko, pays attention to the individual’s daily living that is well integrated with whatever goes on within and without oneself.

Lawrence Murori
The Book is an inspiration of a positive leaving and Soul Searching. It has greatly inspired my life to appreciate the values of life.

David Senabulya
TRUST YOUR FEELINGS. BOOK REVIEW TRUST YOUR FEELINGS. “Don’t trust your feelings”, sang the much-remembered Whitney Houston in one of her top hits (“How will I know”). Dr. Robert Obol couldn’t agree less with her. In these pages he strongly argues that, after we explore and understand our own feelings and how they speak to us, the conclusion is clear: trust them and you are likely to make the right decisions in your life. The author’s sound arguments are drawn from decades of a pastoral life dedicated to people who often live in painful and life-threatening situations. As a young priest, he ministered to people in rural Northern Uganda who suffered the bitter realities of a two-decade conflict which devastated their lives and shattered their dreams. During the last few years, he has been serving the sick and their relatives as a hospital chaplain and as a manager in a faith-based health care system in the US. Going through the chapters of this book -a great page-turner- he presents many real cases of persons who were confronted with having to make difficult decisions and were able to overcome their troubles after following what their hearts told them to do. Not a single of these chapters is without interest and each case awakens in us the desire to understand better what goes on in our most intimate life. When one reaches the end, the reader would probably like to continue the conversation with the author by sharing some of his/her personal complicated winding paths where we often find ourselves during our lives and gathering the courage to take the right direction.

Jose Carlos Rodriquez Soto
Generally, feelings are stronger than reason. However, one cannot live one’s life totally based on feelings alone. Reason has to step in to put order. Dr. Obol’s book brings forward need for an integration of feelings and intellect for the making of good decisions. This book will help parents, educators, adults to come in touch with their feelings and make use of their brains, mental control center, play a role in improving their theory of knowledge to experience things both from emotional and intellectual perspective.

Ruffino Ezama, Ph.D
This book gives great insight on to how feelings shape intuition and how to learn to trust your own intuition. I enjoyed the stories, especially the example of a mother intuitively knowing her son is sick. So often we just “know” things but we dismiss this knowing as an unimportant feeling when in fact the knowing is so much more. A wonderful and quick read that allow for much self-reflection.

Natasha Meinecke
This is a short, interesting and easy to read book. It is a deeply personal sharing by the author of his feelings and how they have affected his decision making through life. The book is a convincing call to greater self awareness by getting more in touch with our feelings.

Bernard K
Throughout this heartfelt book, Dr. Robert comes down on the side of expressing how feelings are a reliable basis for life commitment and in a very sensible and constructive way, then he brings out the discrete line between feelings and emotions. In once visited that part of the country, Luweero, the people are always a happy lot but you can see a very strong history written in their minds. If you are vaguely familiar with the outlines of the story and would like to know more, I recommend this book highly.

John N
Dr. Robert Obol Nyeko work titled: Trust Your Feelings! Why it Matters is a must read. The book assists the reader in discovering how feelings influence good decision-making. Dr. Nyeko; in his work, outlines “We [In our interactions] either rely mostly our intellect or rely on our feelings. Good decision making is a product of both.” The book uses short narratives to illustrate how feelings contribute to both self-awareness and the awareness of environment. Currently in society; we look outside ourselves [Social Media] in seeking approval for choices in life; Dr. Nyeko outlines & explains how important our own personal feelings play in good decision-making. He explains how our feelings bring clarity to confusing situations and how important this is in establishing emotional connections. Dr. Nyeko also makes an important distinction between feelings & emotions. In the book, he outlines; “Feelings are what we sense; they assist us in perceiving an emotion and assigning a value.” Each day, all of us find ourselves faced with both big & small decisions; Trust Your Feelings! Why it Matters is an excellent resource to have when faced with business and/or personal life decisions. I give it five stars!

George Hutton
You can trust your feelings Fr. Robert Obol in this book, has decided to work with a subject that people always try to put down, with the claim that " your personal feelings" don't really matter. Our feelings do matter and actually forms an integral part of of our lives, though we may not have that luxury of giving a thought to it. As a mental health professional and a hospital Chaplain I concur with Fr. Obol that these feelings are offshoots of our past encounters and experiences either with ourselves or with others. Personal reflections and discernment helps us to properly situate them and make them work best for us; and if properly used might help us predict future events. I recommend this book to anyone who may wish to explore the subject of feelings.

Basil O. Eruo
Feelings Matter Dr. Nyeko touches on a subject that is glossed over often in the modern fast-paced life. Getting in tune with our feelings has value in how we should make decisions. It seems to me that, as Dr. Nyeko rightly states, combining feelings with the intellectual decision making process would yield the best outcome. The author cites several examples of situations where feelings have been helpful in decision making, sensing danger, knowing when a loved one is sick e.t.c. and creates the awareness of the importance of these often neglected parts of our being. He does not however delve deep into the process one can use to tap into one’s feelings and integrate that with the logical decision making process. He may want to write a sequel to this book and explore that further. Overall a quick read to create the awareness to explore one's feelings. Off the beaten path but a good one. It is a new path he leads us along, to explore our feelings.

BPark
Learning to Trust Your Feelings 101 Most of us are programmed to rely exclusively on analytical thinking to make associations, differentiate patterns, and interpret situations. We have been trained to view emotions and intuition as fallible, even laughable tools for making decisions in life. We have been taught to push down our feelings. We forgot that human beings have been relying on feelings to survive since hunter-gatherers’ time. “Trust Your Feelings!: Why It Matters” is a very thought-provoking and entertaining book. It makes a compelling case on how feelings can make a more reliable tool in guiding life decisions. Fr. Robert strongly argues that feelings do not hider one’s ability to explain things logically and rationally, conversely, they form a great foundation. We should not assume that reason and feelings are always alternatives at opposite ends of a spectrum. Our feelings do have a lot of value that can be applied alongside our intellectual training. Our feelings do constantly inform and complement the rational choices we make. This is a very interesting read.

Mahugu Nuthu
The book “Trust your feelings. Why it matters”, is written with an impressive clarity, yet it is exploring a slippery but common part of our life of deciding to choose. In the process of deciding and choosing, feelings make people stand with confidence. In thirteen chapters, Dr Robert O. Nyeko shows that feelings are a fundamental human characteristics pertaining to human beings and animals in everyday life. Elucidating with a number of living stories fetched from Northern Uganda and some within the United States of America, he demonstrates why it matters to trust one’s feelings during crucial moments of life committing decisions and choices, say in time of swift decision making where there may be imminent life threatening events. It is the area of everyone’s deepest self. The man I have known well since 1997 during our theological formation in Ggaba National Major Seminary of Kampala, Uganda, Dr Robert Nyeko shows how the process of rationality can be accompanied by our feelings, instinct and reflexes or vice versa in order to avoid unethical actions or inactions, on one hand, and to achieve caring gestures, on the other hand. I absolutely recommend the book for those who need to build more confidence when they have to decide while serving, for healthcare workers, managers, administrators, professional servants, political leaders as well as those who work in assisting persons with special needs. By Dominic B. MATONI, MA in Healthcare Pastoral & Theology and MA in Bioethics. Hospital chaplain in Ospedale Mauriziano of Turin, Italy

Dominic Matoni
A well written book that should be in many libraries so that a good number of people will be able to read it. And, a serious and dedicated pastor should use this book in his ministry as manual to help oneself and others as well. I do recommend it for wide use.

David Ojok
This book is amazing! Thanks for the insights and practical application in this book: Trust Your Feelings: Why It Matters. You have given me reason to believe that my feelings are more than biological human random urges that are annoying and anonymous. You challenge your reader to both study and integrate this most underestimated source of understanding. Seeing that I and millions of others like me, educated ‘talking heads’ have not found a better method to reduce the probability of erroneous decisions, you now offer one. Your synthesis of intelligence and feelings through personal reflection upon my own experiences should produce better outcomes in relationships of many kinds. Your careful selection of various lifestyles and careers in your book help one understand both the benefits of and the consequences of not integrating my feelings and intelligence. And as you illustrate, it may be a matter of LIFE OR DEATH! I appreciated your encouragement to seek out those in my family that I have “a special or unusual connections.” It is these people who will become longstanding friends and without a doubt can be TRUSTED. By using President Donald Trump as your exhibit of extreme imbalance in human relationships you encourage all of us to aim for a balance in our own lives. In an age of sarcastic remarks, disrespect for authority, and extreme individualism your rediscovery of “the importance of feelings” may be the key to making the “Better American and the Better Person”. The read was short enough to keep my attention and long enough to cover the subject. M. RusnaK

M. Rusnak
Dr Robert Obol’s book -“Trust Your Feelings why it matters” send light into another potential in humanity that we don’t use and we end up losing it as we grow It enlightens the need to trust our feelings and learn how to use them Take away for me was the difference between emotion and feelings and their connection Our bodies respond to a stimuli through emotions and our inner mind respond to emotions through feelings This can be stored in a memory bank and reused if similar emotions reoccur and be modified The book has dozens of real life situations of feeling as a great tool in life to be learned and used Read the book and open up to a new potential Children are good at it but loose over time as they ignore the feelings A must read book Thomas Ngundo

Thomas Ngundo
I found this book very interesting, direct and easy to read. Trust your feeling is a great piece of reflective writing. It speaks among other things about intuition with great eloquence. I agree feelings are an important area of our lives that we often tend to minimize or neglect. The author of this book calls us to pay greater attention to the significance of our feelings in our daily lives. I believe that when we trust in our feelings as this book argues we live our lives to our fullest potential and are better decision makers. I highly recommend that you get a copy of this book for your bookshelf.

Boniface Kasita
I enjoyed reading this book. It is both interesting and informative considering my past occupation and life experiences. I agree with the conclusion of the book that we all need to have balance between our emotional I.Q. and the Intelligence I.Q., in our decision making process. I am a mother of three children and the grandmother of eight children, I also have one sister, two brothers, and a large extended family. After many years of working in health care, as a Registered Nurse, BSN and a Licensed Social Worker, I retired. I encourage you to read this book as well.

Marilyn Blissenbach
Trust your feelings! Why it matters, is the most inspiring book that I have ever read. Dr. Robert Nyeko writes with clarity and simplicity about the subject of feelings. He discusses how feelings contribute to self-awareness, awareness of the environment and the role feelings play in good decision making. I recommend this book and I believe that many will benefit from it. FR. ALFRED OKUMU Associate Pastor at Immaculate Heart of Mary parish-Lacor; Gulu Archdiocese Uganda.

Fr. Okumu Alfred
Trust your feelings? Why It matters, great piece of work. It contributes to a deep understanding of human personality. It is easy reading, its language is simple and ordinary. The topics treated are at a glance, striking. I believe that for those who struggle with low self-esteem this book is a great resource for self-confidence. I believe the author has made a great contribution to knowledge and to society.

Irumba Paul
I really loved reading this book of Trust Your feelings: Why It matters. The definition of terms in it enriched my understanding of several concepts: feelings, emotions and intuition. Feelings are about something we sense. Feelings are about perceiving an emotion and assigning a value to it—for example, to consider something as important and worthy of attention or as insignificant and unworthy of attention. Feelings arise when we begin to assimilate an emotion by thinking about it and letting it sink in. Feelings are therefore a person’s mental associations with and reactions to an emotion. But feelings go deeper than emotions, because they can last much longer in individuals. By contrast, intuition is the ability of a person to read and to interpret their feelings accurately.

Ernest Muthara
Dr. Robert Nyeko Obol has written a masterpiece book, Trust Your Feelings! Why It Matters. As a Catholic Priest and an academician, I have always relied on divine guidance and my intellectual thought processes to make decisions. Dr. Obol’s book has helped me to also rely on my own feelings as trustworthy tools for making decisions. As Dr. Obol writes we make better decisions when we learn to listen and obey our feelings together with our other human senses like hearing and seeing. Dr. Obol gives practical examples of how his feelings helped him to live through difficult situations in the war zone of northern Uganda. As one who studied and lived in northern Uganda during the peak of that civil war, I appreciate Dr. obol’s insights into the use of feelings to survive in difficult situations. This is a must-read self-help book for those who want to make better decisions both for themselves and others. Rev. Dr. Andrew Obel, JCD

Rev. Dr. Andrew Obel, JCD
TRUST YOUR FEELINGS: WHY IT MATTERS This book is an interesting philosophical treatise on the role of feelings in our daily lives, and how these feelings impact our decision-making process. Fr Robert Obol in thirteen chapters of this interesting and entertaining book argues that contrary to popular opinion, our feelings do matter and when harnessed well can be a source of great help in decision making. The author draws deeply from his well of personal and professional experiences to illustrate the benefit of channeling our feelings in decision making. We live in a world where we are constantly being told” don’t take it personally! It is not about you!” The author illustrates his view with elaborate examples from professional and personal angles to illustrate that our feelings can also be useful allies to guide our decision making. The book is quite readable, and argues that being objective does not imply that we should ignore our feelings entirely. It is a thought-provoking book, that suggests that our feelings may not necessarily be antithetical to logic and rationality.

Chike M. Nzerue,MD,MBA,FACP
Dr. Nyeko has provided us with a delightful book inviting us to examine our feelings, in a variety of life situations. He has used the long used skill of teaching through storytelling. If you are looking for a text book to use in a academic setting you will not find that in this work. However if you are looking for an encounter between author and reader, you may be delighted and surprised. Dr. Nyeko through storytelling (as mentioned) and reflection invites the reader to not just study feelings, but engage in a conversation with the author on your unique feelings in the provided subjects. I would encourage the reader to take notes and read carefully each chapter. Pause and then respond to the author’s questions. This will become a delightful devotional as you may struggle with your own feelings for the first time.

Richard W. Smith
An excellent piece of work by a great thinker Dr. Obol writes in an easy and relatable style, comfortable yet whimsical, even when describing difficult situations. His childhood and background as a priest in war-torn northern Uganda, and subsequent work in pastoral service have imbued him with a unique perspective on feelings and how they relate to everyday life. He uses personal anecdotes to illustrate the importance of introspection in guiding daily decision-making, be it at work, at home, or at play. Far from being a “touchy-feely” portrayal as the title may suggest, this book is actually a philosophical treatise on the distinction between emotion, intuition and feelings. He begins by laying out these definitions and the basic construct of his thesis, and then proceeds to demonstrate the importance of feelings in multiple aspects of life. He borrows extensively from his war-time experiences which undoubtedly dominated his consciousness, and also provided many instances when feelings proved useful in the absence of empiric information. Dr. Obol has done a superb job exploring the subject, and adroitly weaves the theme into contemporary politics and the actions of the current US president. He however leaves the reader hungry for a deeper dive into the role of feelings in other fields of social and political decision-making, and how feelings may have influenced other leaders and shaped our world into what it is today. Overall, an excellent piece of work by a great thinker.

Billoreily
Great insight on the pastoral care for the sick. Reading through this book was an exciting experience for me. As a professional chaplain, I connected with some of the thoughts of the author on the various means often overlooked in the care for a sick person or a loved one. The author reminds the readers that there are many ways to show our concern and care for the sick. Sometimes, it is simply through being present, providing companionship, active listening and observing a moment of purposeful silence that brings meaning to life. Ayepa Thomas

Thomas Ayepa
Yes, I am a better caregiver because I trust in my feelings. I have worked in the field of the care for the elderly and the aged for many years. This book spoke to me very powerfully. Because some of the chapters deal with compassion and empathy which I have to express daily in my service to the residents. I am glad to be reminded that tapping into my feelings makes me a better care giver.

James Ndungu
Computer programmers can trust their feelings, too! My field of work is computer technology; the temptation in the profession is to think always of the technical aspects of the job: the programs and the new software in our work. I was impressed and moved by the fact that this book challenged and reminded me that my feelings are an important part of my daily work. Since they communicate to us at our places of work. I realize now that my feelings play a big part in what I do. For example, how I organize my day and what I prioritize in my day.

Robert Zhanje
Trust your feelings is such a wonderful book. I have definitely come to realize how feelings contribute to self awareness in a wider way. This book calls us to pay greater attention to our inner feelings to a potential life. Am a professional Counselor and a mother one girl who is now a teenager. I encourage you to read and finish this enjoyable truthful book about trusting our feelings. warm regards. Stellah Abwol

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