C. Brown

In general, humans deal with perception and everything that this embodies. The problem with perception and truly understanding what something is or who someone is, is that this is motored by past experience and is based primarily on stigma rather than current merit. When dealing with machinery or other electrical equipment, I’d say that this may serve as a useful tool in gaining insight on a situation…but one must change or shift this (perception) when dealing with “each” individual to provide a fair atmosphere for progression, or better yet, growth with others. Would it be that bad to take the time to understand the complexities of different people or are we really that busy that we can ill-afford to put time and energy into something/one that we’d want to grow with? Is it too much to ask to at least try? This is just a thought – “What If…?” What if people were on time to things that they had on their agendas – would this upset the balance of stigma? How would that change/shift the perception of who that person is, or at least viewed as? Would they be known as a better person? How do others know that the person is not going through internal or family issues? Is there a limit to the problems that one can encounter before they are written off as being unreliable or unstable? At what point do we remove them from our social circle? Professionally, do you ask these individuals if they need help or do they become labeled immediately, due to the dependence of others to them? Have we truly understood or been understanding of the fact that life throws curveballs at everyone to see how they read the pitch and swing? Can we sense when strife and stress have gotten the better of a few and consult with them for counsel? Are we saying that all hope is gone when we disregard the futile efforts of the broken, when communication is severed… or do we just want them to work harder? Haven’t they worked hard enough already, or do we believe we have set the standard to effort and determination? What if, while in relationships, people said what they meant and truly meant what they said? How would that affect the rate of those married and those single? What if a confession of guilt or innocence alleviated the issue from resurfacing in arguments, to gain leverage on others? What if being forgiven was to have whatever took place, disappear and never be brought back up? What if after those words were uttered, the memory of them were removed from all involved parties? What if people followed through with what they stated they would – how much better would the quality of commitment become? What if commitment was truly that? What if when he/she stated “I love you” he/she actually meant it; what type of statement would that make? What if people could see your thoughts in life altering situations, such as the brink of break-ups, divorce or the emergence of rumors? Would this solidify the truthfulness or the integrity of the masses? What if there was no guess-work to be done about the solidarity of a significant other, would this relieve the potential stresses of those involved in relationships? If I told you, I wanted to be with you, would you believe it or brush it off, thinking that I’d already asked others and was turned down? What if you weren't my last choice, but my best choice? What if it took this long to find out whether you had my best interests at heart? What if I mapped out our new life but just needed your consent to proceed – would you grant it? If I stopped talking about the things that I wanted to see change and affected change, would you notice a difference – or would you keep on moving as if nothing did? What if these were your feelings, would you even acknowledge/embrace them or would you close this page and shred the evidence? Would you be able to pose these same questions and stick around for what follows or would you flee in anticipation of unwanted criticism? What if you never read this, would your life be any different… or for that matter, now that you have, is it? What if…?