What's Inside Your Bag Baby?

Like a vintage suitcase, we all carry history from everyone and everything. Because of this, our mind and body are circulating through the baggage claim at the airport --they go round and round hauling these past relationships and the experiences accompanying these connections until detected and stopped. These bonds are with your relatives, friends, teachers, co-workers, spouses, coaches, counselors, doctors, baby-sitters and, unfortunately, sometimes, with predators. Have you ever imagined that the identity you have created for yourself, the job you have chosen, the people with whom you surround yourself with, the body imagine you perceive yourself to have, your behavior patterns and the day-to-day choices you make are the result of those jeans (genes) you have been wearing? Perhaps, your JEANS (GENES) are giving power to memories and events you think you have forgotten or overcome. That last pair of jeans (genes) you wore --did you have to pull and twist to get them on or did they slide right over your hips and bottom without effort? There is no other feeling like it when your favorite pair secures your body just perfectly and you know the feeling when you cannot not zip that zipper or button that top button on that same pair - feelings of anger, depression, guilt or just plain discomfort. As adults, we allow people into our lives with the same familiar characteristics that were instilled in our subconscious mind from childhood - drawing to whom we are content. Over time, certain influences we have experienced hold the power of the beliefs we collect about ourselves changing how we may behave in our future. Your body is a source of energy and every interaction you have with someone is an exchange of energy. Are there times you feel someone is sucking the life out of you or has some sort of control over you in any way - your energy feels drained? Many times, just to become compatible, we adjust to others likes or dislikes not realizing we are only seeking the approval we think we need. Not until it is too late, we eventually understand we cannot transform ourselves into something we are not. Do you ever feel like the jeans (genes) you are wearing seem identical to your parent's “Hammy” downs or those of the ones who acted as your parents? Are they the complete opposite? Whether we realize it or not, our past determines what we are going to do --we make decisions based on how we have been conditioned to make them and we always follow patterns that are comfortable and familiar to us --it's human nature. Throughout your life, have you been made to feel loved, taught self-esteem, self-confidence and self-worth? Some of us had the picture-perfect life. Some may have lived in a dysfunctional home. Either way, these circumstances created certain unresolved feelings we may have suppressed. This is normal for everyone. Some experiences seemed like scrapes so we never gave them any more attention; however some may have been so painful we pushed them away from our conscious mind hiding them from our true self. We never knew all this was going to have an impact on our happiness as an adult - never realizing that the negative events and memories carry an energy - a subconscious awareness - that can linger within for many years. Because of this, we are uncertain about how to steer our life and, consequently, irrational thought patterns flood our rational mind. Unfortunately, we think there are too many obstacles thrown our way and we begin to feel confused, angry, hurt, self-absorbed and sometimes disturbed. We either make poor choices or make no choices at all, we blame others and we certainly do not accept responsibility for our Jeans (Genes) not fitting --we want to blame others. Most of us submerge our emotions, compartmentalize, and then wrap them with what we think is a security blanket. Are there times you are having a bad day for no apparent reason and display certain behavior? These feelings shape and mold our Baggage which eventually weighs us down. Unfortunately, we begin masking our pain by turning to certain addictions, such as, smoking, overworking, shopping and/or exhibiting codependent behavior, therefore, forcing our personalities to change. As we grow older, we become settled in our ways making it almost impossible to face reality. We were unaware, that as a child, we were never taught to develop coping skills, express our feelings and to handle situations when they occurred. Now that we hold many views and beliefs that are not good for our well-being, we cannot see clearly, as if, we are blindfolded. We have been unable to recognize the consequences of how our behaviors affected our own inner peace and we are clueless as to how they influenced the ones who surround us, mainly our loved ones --- especially our children, to collect their Jeans (Genes) --their baggage. All of us want to change our life in some way: to be loved by others; to fulfill our purpose in a certain career; to find a balance with our body shape; to release the need for cover-ups --addictions and/or just be happy in life. Are the Jeans (Genes) you are wearing providing the life you knew was meant for you? Whose life do you have stuffed inside your jeans (Genes)? Is it even yours? In order for things to change, you will have to Unpack your Big Bag and get to the roots of the underlying issues of why you feel and act the way you do. You will have to pay attention to the little messages and lessons being thrown your way. Remove your RCGs that only show you what you want to see and start looking at the truth of your life. Yes, it can be painful but worth every minute of the way for the new Jeans (Genes) for which you are going to go shopping. You ask why? Simply put, “You Are Worth Having The Life You Know You Deserve!”