Secret Struggles Of A Single Mother

Introduction Single parenting has become popular in America, and it is sad when you examine the rising statistics of them. As mothers, we are often overlooked because America feels that they should worry about the major challenges. Why worry about the single mother, of three: who’s living in the projects and working at McDonalds? This lady is about to lose her mind because her children has to share a can of Vienna sausage for dinner. Why worry about the single mother; who was once married but is now divorced? She has to make sure her kids eat at their school because that will be the only meal they receive for the day. There is no food in the house; the mortgage is pass due, and the car is about to get repossessed. Why worry about the unmarried mother; working two jobs just to provide for her children? The moment she goes to the government for assistance, they reject her by saying she makes too much money. The government is not considering that she pays $550 in rent, a $400 car note, and $125 in insurance. I am here to be the mouth piece for single mothers all over the world. People judge us, and it’s wrong. When the baby comes, mothers have to step up to the plate and stay there. We don’t get the privilege, like the fathers, to choose whether or not we’ll remain in our children’s life. I was six months pregnant when my consciousness knocked me in the head, and told me to prepare myself for this one passenger flight heading directly towards “single parenting”. Things were not going well with my son’s dad, and it would take a miracle to improve our damaged relationship. God wasn’t in the miracle working mood that day. (ll> Anytime you see this symbol, that indicates I am pressing pause to say something out of character. This book is not a sad book; I’m not aiming to make you shed a tear. I want you to learn how to take off the garments of being a victim and put on the garments of a victor. I’m an extremely funny person, so lighten up). Being a single parent, I started out as a charity case. I wanted people to feel sorry for me because I happened to be a first-time mother, abandoned by a man whom I thought I would spend the rest of my life with and live happily ever after. My story doesn’t start or end with my son’s dad, but it’s the turning point that caused me to become the unique woman I am today. I wrote this book in hopes of shedding light on the secret struggles of a single mother. We struggle daily without people knowing. Single mothers struggle privately because the moment we try to go to someone, they become critical and reflect negatively. Does this sound familiar, “You should have thought about that before you laid down and had that baby”, “You knew he wasn’t any good in the first place”, or “I tried to tell you not to mess your life up, but you wouldn’t listen you just thought you were in love”? I challenge each mother to destroy everything negative in your life. When you free yourself from negativity then, you can become the mother God shaped you to be. Today, you will remove all the disapprovals people have placed inside your head. You probably did make a mistake, but you got to remember that everything happens for a reason. Most of my struggles were a result of my childhood. My childhood issues were not addressed at an early age, so they grew into something bigger than what I’d ever expected. Today my prayer is for single parents to be changed when reading this book. I am a young single; however, my life has been in a series as if I’m an older parent. My trials did not get me to bend or break; they made me stronger. Those trials helped me to learn, to overcome, and help others. My book is not presented with the Excellency of speech. I am not coming with big words and expressions, but I come with evidence. I want to show women that if I overcame these different struggles, you all can also overcome. There isn’t anything too hard for God. Through many of my experiences, I had to learn the hard way. However, I hope by reading my story it will be a model for avoiding the hard roads and pursuing the easy routes. I’m, also, writing to emphasize that easy path by informing others on the failed recognition of single mothers. We carry loads that no one else has to accept. We have to be a mother, father, companion, doctor, teacher, etc. to our children. We have to do all of this while juggling a 9 to 5 and school; hoping not to break down. In later chapters, you’ll learn that by being a single mother, you will encounter unavoidable trials and errors. Single parenting comes with “designed” falls, but the thing I love the most is that you have the ability to let it make you or break you. Let us pray: God, I thank you for this opportunity to pour into the hearts and minds of the single mothers. Lord I do not use this for my reputation. I know it is not about me; it is all about you. Lord I give this book to you, that you may obtain the glory. Father, allow your blessings to fall upon this book. Anoint my hands to be as a pen of a ready writer. Lord, tell me what to say, because I know I am nothing without you. I move flesh out of the way; flesh does not delight in your sight. I thank you for the trials that I have gone through as well as the tests. I realize those were my tools that assisted me in creating this novel. God, right now I come against every evil work. Your word says to touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm. God I appreciate you. Father, please as you compel people to buy this book, allow them to read it and let their lives never be the same in Jesus Name. Amen.