Life By Design
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SIXTH LAYER – RESENTMENT
When we are emotionally blackmailed, one of the major emotions to overlay our essence and further remove us from our Authentic Self is resentment. We resent the pressure and berate ourselves for allowing it. Resentment is particularly harmful because it is one of those emotions that we do not want to recognize. It carries with it so much guilt.
We have been domesticated as children and by Society that we should always strive to be nice – that we should not harbor deep within ourselves ill-will toward another humanbeing or ever feel “put upon”. Most of us have come to believe that we are “our brothers keeper” and thereby responsible for and to everyone other than ourselves. That the needs of others are superior to those of our own and that it is unchristian to consider ourselves before others; on and on ad infinitum.
To make matters more complicated for us – resentment is one of those emotions that is so easily felt and dismissed without real recognition of what it is. Almost as soon as we feel the resentment building within us, there is a little switch that hits us immediately about this being improper. Those childhood tapes about being selfish are set on automatic rewind. If we are asked to do something by someone and we do not want to do it – resentment is immediate – and almost immediately we tell ourselves that we should not feel this way. We do not handle this emotion – we bury it. It is the most suppressed of all of the emotions which makes it so much more harmful. We have attached so much shame to this emotion.
I always associate this emotion with any should because you will always find should when you are dealing with resentment. Try it. You experience the vibration of resentment any time and EVERY time you must do something you really do not want to do and feel guilt simply for not wanting to do it. And, as a young child, when you display attitudes of resentment, there is always someone to say shame on you for feeling like that .... this is your .... or for your .... [it really does not matter how you finish the sentence, the result is always the same.] We bury resentment because it is always accompanied by and associated with shame.
We have learned to justify our anger, frustration – even our guilt to a certain extent; but this is not the case with resentment. In our childhood programming, we will often times uncover resentment being associated with jealousy and envy. They are not the same energy vibration; but somewhere in our psyche we will find them linked.
Resentment, like all of the other emotions we have talked about must be handled. It must be recognized and then dissipated – not quickly buried in hopes that it will not be discovered. In upcoming writings I will be talking about some successful meditations for addressing deeply held resentments and dissipating them at their source – without any judgment.
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Designing your life is completely up to you. However, structured belief systems take us away from our soul intentions. Some of us feel that we are pawns in some elaborate chess game being played by deities of choice. We are designed to be the masters of our Universe!
Since our belief systems determine our experiences; when we actively change those beliefs, we change our experiences! As simple and straightforward as this is it can prove to be difficult for us to orchestrate when we try to implement life changes. We are beautifully complex beings and all areas must be interwoven in order to effect lasting life changes.
The goal here is to create an atmosphere of “heart-knowing”, where our teacher within can connect and work with us. Once connected, we will then have the ability to design and re-design our life, world and affairs – at will and in trust, love and joy.To begin the journey into "heart-knowing", I have divided this book into three major sections that address core issues or stumbling blocks as it were to our heart-knowing.
To begin your journey into self-actualization you must recognize that you are the co-creator and the deciding factor in your reality and the life you are currently expressing and then you must begin to recognize and then neutralize the emotional blackmailers in your life and finally you are ready to begin a relationship with the Creator of All Things -- a relationship built upon choosing and then anchoring in the Light of the Creator.
Each of these steps is foundational on your path to becoming self-actualized and I have provided examples, and affirmations to assist you in re-designing your current belief-systems and self-talk thought processes. As simple and as straight-forward as it is to "choose this day whom you will serve", our psychological, theological, and sociological "automatic" programming makes the journey interesting to put it mildly.
Life by Design is about taking back your power in joy, love, compassion and more importantly non-judgmentally. It is a blueprint, a foundation as it were for orchestrating your own life expression.
About the Author
As a small girl growing up in my native Illinois, I was always fascinated by all things magical, metaphysical, esoteric and mythological. I would be swept away for hours reading about the Greek and Roman Gods and Goddesses. I even enjoyed some of the Norse Mythology.
Being clairvoyant at a young age and having no one to speak to, it was the writings of Socrates, Plato, Aristotle and the early transcendentalists that rescued me and gave understanding and clarity to my feelings and intuitive knowings. These writings made perfect sense to me and at a very early age, I could even speak with my father on some of the ideologies I had interpreted.
My writings are autobiographical in nature. And although early childhood and adolescent trauma momentarily distracted me from my path, my writings catalogue those spiritual laws operating in the Universe and my interpretation and application of these laws in my own life, world and affairs. To some of you the information and my interpretations will be new. For others of you, there will be information that you knew but I have provided for you another way to look at it – one that may prove to be more practical. In whatever way my writings are of assistance to you on your journey, I am grateful to be of benefit to you. If my resolutions help you in any small way with your own, then I have honored my intent to be of service to others.
I am available for workshops, discourses, lectures and private telephonic conferencing. You can visit my website at www.forlifedesign.net and drop me a note if you like.