Mirror
The mirror is a neutral thing that can bring both positive and negative aspects of self. When you understand how to use the mirror, everything it brings you becomes the potential for positive outcome.
Keyword: Reflection
What is mirroring? If you hear it, if you see it, if you feel it, it is you. Whether the mirror brings you the delight of those who you feel are better than you, and, you wish you were they, or, whether the mirror brings you something repugnant, if there is a charge on it, either way it requires a healing. To desperately want to be someone else is to swear you are not good enough. To desperately dislike someone is to swear you have no flaws. If the mirror stands before you and you like the mirror, you are seeing aspects of yourself. If the mirror stands before you and you cannot abide the mirror, then the parts of the mirror you are having difficulty with are aspects of yourself that you have not come to comfort with. If any aspect of the negative disturbs you, or you feel that only to understand the positive is appropriate, you are looking into mirroring. The need to always be right, the need to always have the right thing is a part of the mirror. When someone reflects to you something you do not like, you do not want to deal with it. Yet, the aspects of the self that are not considered appropriate are the parts that require the most attention. They may not be wrong or bad within you, but they are parts of yourself you have not come to comfort with. The mirror is simply showing you how to become comfortable. When you observe the actions of others and you are not involved in whether it was good or bad, then they have shown you aspects of yourself you have healed. When you are genuinely in love with something, you do not notice it is good or bad. In the game of separation, it has been required that you separate out something to say you are in love with it.
In the human condition, for example, you hate the boss and want to leave your job. The need to leave the job dams the flow. The boss is a mirror. As long as you wail, you wail against your own reflection. It does not matter what the reflection is, just that it is a reflection. Something about the boss disturbs you. As you begin to look at the boss and find things you like, you begin to break the grip of your own resistance to movement. In disliking the boss so actively, you are resisting your best potential because a part of your flow is to own that you are not perfect; this is not to say that you are bad. As you own that you are not perfect, you can own that the boss is not perfect. When you love the image that is reflected in the mirror, you can go on. "I love my boss. I love my boss." Say it till you mean it. Then, you begin to extricate yourself from the situation. As you really come to love him, it also is to say, "I love myself. I love myself. I love what I see of myself reflected in this person." It is so simple.
When you name something, what you have named is so until you change its name. If you keep calling the boss a terrible person, hard to work with, and a difficult man, those things within self keeps getting re-emphasized. You cannot judge others without judging yourself. You are simply looking at yourself and them and criticizing yourself. Every time you criticize their flaws, you are condemning yourself.
You meet someone and you do not like what he is doing. You have a definite reaction in your belly, "I don't like what he is doing." This is a mirror of something you have created whether it was in this journey or another, and it requires a healing. When you forgive it, it will not matter what they are doing. You can forgive it because you have forgiven yourself. You meet someone and you think she is absolutely wonderful, but better than you. You desire to be what she is. There is a charge on that reflection because you have judged yourself as less. As you come to honor the fact that what you see there is a reflection, she is not greater than you, she is simply showing something in yourself that perhaps you have not honored yet. As you do honor yourself, the mirror no longer is something greater than you, but something equal. These are examples of how life brings in mirroring in both positive and negative ways.
Affirmation
I look into the mirrors of my life and bless them all, for the reflections the mirrors bring are of my light and my darkness. I give thanks.
Each person that comes brings some reflection. When you come to love the reflections and not categorize them, then they are no longer good reflections or bad reflections. You simply are interested and appreciate the reflection and more and more you honor yourself in the mirrors of your life. You will call similar conditions from different people until you come to understand what the reflection is.
One can spend a lifetime attempting to figure out the lesson. The lessons is: if you are in love enough with yourself, everything else looks good. If you do not love yourself, the flaws you judge in yourself are going to be up in your face in the mirrors that surround you. The boss, the partner, or the "friend" that is not a friend, they are all just reflections of places where you are not in love with yourself. As you love yourself, amazingly, the reflections change because you have stepped to another perspective.