Spin Cycle Stop

A Practical Handbook on Domestic Violence Awareness

by Bob Meade, MA, LMFT



Book Details

Language : English
Publication Date : 6/18/2009

Format : Hardcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 164
ISBN : 9781438940182
Format : Softcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 164
ISBN : 9781438940175

About the Book

One of the most difficult and dangerous things a person can do is to leave an abusive relationship.  This book provides insights into what victims go through and the challenges they face to change from "victims" to "survivors".  It is filled with real-life stories and experinces as well as quotes from survivors who have made that change.  It also provides information the author feels is important not only for the survivor but also for the family, friends and loved ones of those caught up in the frightening, crazy-making world of abusive relationships.


The author addresses such issues as:  What is domestic violence?  Why do victims stay and/or return to the abuser?  What are the psychological, emotional and verbal tools the abuser uses to control the victim?  What is the worst part of the abuse according to victims?  What is the Cycle of Abuse and how does it compare to the Cycle of Respect? Why is it so hard to get away?  What is Safety Planning and how can friends, family and loved ones play a big part in it? 

About the Author

Bob Meade, MA, LMFT is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been working in the domestic violence field for many years as a counselor, group facilitator, and teacher.  During this time he has spent thousands of hours with hundreds of people caught in the web of abuse - women, men and children; victims and perpetrators.


Over the years Bob has developed his practical, down-to-earth style of teaching and therapy through many paths life has taken him.  Bob has worked several careers and many, many jobs in a wide variety of fields.  He has learned a little about life from being an elementary school teacher, ordained non-denominational minister, librarian, bank-teller, television show production, door-to-door sales as well as laboring in rock quarries, tree-planting in the forests of Oregon and Washington, factory labor, short-order cook and dishwasher, and even driving an ice-cream truck.  Throughout it all, he as sought to learn lessons and grow, gaining insights he now shares with those he counsels and teaches.


Bob was featured in an episode of Anatomy of Crime on Court TV national cable network which highlighted the abusive relationship of one of his clients.  He also teaches workshops on domestic violence at local colleges and is recognized as an expert witness on domestic violence issues by the Fresno County Superior Court system.


As a great believer in using object lessons, movie lines, metaphors and quotes, Bob uses every day life to make his material relevant and practical.  Having suffered through abuse of various types as a child and as an adult, Bob can empathize with those dealing with abuse issues today.  As a "success story" himself, he looks to help othes succeed in their lives.