Loving Me After Heartbreak

Before you set that torch to his clothes; before you sleep with your rebound guy; before you try to fight that girl or before you pick up that drink to deal with your heartbreak, read this book. This book was written with YOUR heartbreak in mind. If you are reading this, please know that it is not by mistake! I believe that it is in God’s plan for your life that you be blessed by the lessons presented in this book. Throughout my life, I have experienced, whether first-hand or second hand, the affects of a relationship turning sour. Women close to me have spiraled out of control when a relationship ended. Instead of turning to God for guidance and healing, too often drugs, sex, partying and homosexuality are used for comfort. I know this to be true because I too have been floored by the loss of a significant other. And I too have turned away from God’s guidance and plans for my life and toward worldly temporary comforts. Heartbreak is an emotional loss that requires healing. Yes, healing! Eight years ago, I decided to write about heartbreaking experiences, mine and others around me. I tried several times to get those experiences published with the idea in mind that public awareness will help women all over the world deal with their heartbreak with dignity and respect for themselves, their bodies and God. Nonetheless, it was not until recently that I felt confident enough to present it. Growing in my faith and understanding of my relationship with God, I have learned that it was not necessarily that my book was not ready for publication because of the incomplete thoughts; rather, God wanted me to go through more and experience more to be able to share more in this book!

I have certainly experienced a lot! Sometimes you just want to throw the cover over your head and stay there until you forgot about the hurt or until it passes.  ‘When life gives you a lemon, make lemonade’ (excuse the cliché), but in reality if we are to be truthful, the road to peace (or to making good lemonade) is sometimes more difficult because of misguidance and decisions made on achieving temporary pleasures. The road to recovery after heartbreak does not have to be difficult though. You can learn from the mistakes of many that have dealt with this type of pain before you. For that reason, I have included some of my personal testimonies about pain and those of close friends in this book. My hope is that these experiences can sharpen your decision making skills to make good choices during heartbreak. The lessons ranged from first sexual experience to first heartbreak. You do not have to make bad decisions.

            This book is a combination of narrative, testimony and reflection with the hopes of helping you heal without damaging your walk with God.  Loving Me After Heartbreak is broken up into two parts. Part I is a short narrative about a girl that found herself trying to heal a broken hearts through sex and clubbing. Part II is a work book style section that allows readers to journal their thoughts. It also offers creative ways not to self-destruct when experiencing a heart break! If you have ever been in love before, you know that when the relationship ends, it can be tragic. Heartbreak can leave you temporarily impaired emotionally. The drama can cause you to do some things that you would have never imagined. Part II sets up a daily structure of prayer and concentration that will lead to your complete healing.

Ultimately, this book attempts to help you realize the victory that God has already given you in this situation. You have the victory, but you must go through the process! God allows pain to shape your character. When it is all said and done, YOU will be stronger and God will get the glory out of it. Your testimony will reflect God’s abilities and power to nonbelievers and believers. 

Enjoy,

Melanie