Black Eyed Peas for the Woman's Soul
Selected Essays and Poems Written by Deborah Lynn
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Do Your Relationships Define You?
Do you believe the movie Waiting to Exhale was a true depiction of the experience Black women, in general, are faced with in our dealings with men? Do our men prefer White women? Do we react to our men asking for a divorce in such a dramatic, angry and violent manner? Are we promiscuous or naive when it comes to men and the lies they tell because we want to hear and believe them because we are lonely? Do we stoop to sharing married men because our choices are so few, because all the good ones are taken? Do we settle for less than we are worth because our friends and relatives think that having a man is more important than having self-respect and having a career? Is this why we stoop so low and accept any kind of treatment we are given?
To all these questions, I offer a resounding yes. Moreover, we accept the man of the new millenium and all his inadequacies because we ourselves feel inadequate. We have brainwashed ourselves into believing this is all we deserve. As a result, this is all we get. We have to change our train of thought. Only when we begin to feel better about ourselves will we be able to change and feel better about our relationships. Such a transformation cannot take place overnight.
One way to feel better about ourselves is to start 'ego tripping.' Like writer/poet Nikki Giovanni exclaimed, "We are bad!" We need to recognize ourselves for being the strong yet nurturing persons that we are. We need to become the women we truly want to be, doing the things we truly want to do. Whether that means having a career or staying home with our families, truly this is an individual decision.
Only when we feel strong alone will we be able to stand together in healthy and fulfilling relationships and allow ourselves, our men, and our families to grow.
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About the Book
The essays and poems in Black Eyed Peas for the Woman's Soul are about experiences coming to terms with who we are as women, and where we fit in the scheme of things. They seek to inspire women to examine who they are and who they'd like to become. The author then motivates us to go through whatever process it takes to make things happen.
The essays look at the African American side of life in these United States, asking pertinent questions in our quest for justice and equality. This book is about women -- good women, bad women, happy women, sad women. It explores our feelings about our families, our men, each other, and ourselves. Black Eyed Peas for the Woman's Soul encourages unity and self-fulfillment. It is a must read for down to earth soul searching sisters who are moving mountains and making things happen.
About the Author
Deborah Lynn coauthored with other aspiring writers and educators to publish "In the Company of Writers" in 2001, a collection of short stories, poems, and essays. She also wrote an article for Black Men Magazine in 2002.
This author's stories, poems, and essays look at living, laughing and loving here on earth. They are meant to be inspirational yet thought-provoking, even action enducing. Her work has a witty sometimes serious nature. And readers embrace her self-introspection and honesty.