I once saw a bumper sticker that read “Stuff Happens.” Well, the word they used wasn’t “Stuff .” It was another “S” word. However, I’m sure you get the picture.
You will find that once you begin to
jump-start and transform your life: Stuff will begin to happen to you. Stuff happens to everybody! What happens to you also happens to me. What happens to me also happens to you. It does not matter what race or gender you are. It does not matter if you are fat or thin, tall or short, fast or slow, smart or dumb, old or young, rich or poor. Stuff happens.
There will be some good stuff and some bad stuff that will happen to you. As stuff happens in your life it is going to be very important that you remember this: “It’s not what happens to you that is important, but rather, what you do about what happens to you.”
Stuff disguises itself in different forms: accidents, medical issues, abuse, death, lay-offs, loan declines, rejections, divorces, disabilities, repossession, adultery, limited finances, break-ups, bankruptcy, etc. In order for you to continue to grow in life, you must not allow this stuff to cause you to give up.
When we allow “stuff ” to make us give up, we loose. Make sure that you do not allow stuff to make you give up prematurely because your reward could be closer than you think. Remember you must take the attitude that you are going to control the “stuff ” and you are not going to give the “stuff “ the opportunity to control you.
How to Gain Control Over the Stuff that Happens to You
Turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. I have found the best way to control what happens to us is to be proactive and not reactive. The first thing you can do is to change the word “problem” to another word like “stepping stones.” By changing the word to stepping stones this will give you control. You will then be able to visualize stepping on your problems. Whenever you can step on something it gives you power over that object in your mind.
Don’t magnify your problems. You want to make sure that you don’t allow yourself to make your problems bigger than they really are. People have called me in a panic. They are usually stressed out over what turns out to be a relatively small problem. Most of the time they have worried all night for nothing. Keep your problems in perspective.
Get out of the manufacturing business. Over the years I have encountered people with all types of problems. After discussing their problems I find that most of their problems were manufactured by them. They created their own dilemmas by lack of action. Either they failed to respond to the problem in the early stages or they created the problem by starting something that they knew they were not capable of completing.
Don’t allow others to put their monkey on your back. All too often we allow other people to put their problems on us. By allowing them to do this it causes us to take on their burdens. We worry about things that we had no part in creating. This doesn’t do us any good and it doesn’t help the other person either.
Move towards your problem. Problems will not just disappear! Many times people think that if they just close their eyes and make a wish their problems will disappear. In my business I notice that people avoid opening up their bills when they come in the mail. They think that somehow they are going to disappear. Unfortunately, this delay tactic usually results in canceled insurance policies. I encourage you to move towards your problems. Attack them head on. Address them early. Be proactive and not reactive.
Give your new ideas a 90 day trial. Whenever you decide to try something new, give it at least 90 days in order to see if it is going to work or not. It is a well known fact in the personal development industry that anything you do for at least 30 to 60 days will help you form a new habit. And I speak from personal experience. Whenever I decide to try something new I have found that when I give it my all for at least 90 days, I discover if it works or does not work.
As we go through life we will always encounter stuff happening. I would like to share with you just a few things that happened to a few people you may know. Keep in mind that it is not what happens to you but what you do about what happens to you that’s important.
When he was 22, he failed in business. When he was 23, he ran for the legislature and lost. When he was 24, he failed in business again. The following year he was elected to the legislature. When he was 26, his sweetheart died. At the age of 27, he had a nervous breakdown. When he was 29, he was defeated for the post of Speaker of the House in the State Legislature. When he was 31, he was defeated as Elector. When he was 34, he ran for Congress and lost. At the age of 37, he ran for Congress and fi nally won. Two years later, he ran again and lost his seat in Congress. Atthe age of 46, he ran for the U.S. Senate and lost. Th e following year he ran for Vice President and lost that, too. He ran for the Senate again and again lost. Finally, at the age of 51, he was elected President of the United State. Who was this perpetual “loser”? Abraham Lincoln.<