WHAT ARE WE TELLING OUR DAUGHTERS?

How often do we tell our daughters about men? Although we may not have figured them out totally, we still should be able to share some insight or wisdom with our daughters on this subject. My father actually dominated in this arena; he made sure I knew his thoughts on this subject. When I was a teenager, my father would often talk to me about guys. He was the father of three daughters, and he wanted to make sure that we knew the game, knew who was in the game, knew and how the game was played. He told us that it was important to pay attention to man’s shoes, his tires, and his appearance. He also said to pay attention to the way the guy treated his mother. According to my father, the guy’s shoes would tell you a lot about his style and worth. He would say, “If he spends a lot on his shoes, he won’t have a problem buying nice shoes for you.” The tires on his vehicle were indicators of his priorities, for if a guy spent hundreds of dollars on his sound system and didn’t have any tread on his tires, he was pretty mixed up. He would say, “Make sure that joker’s fingernails are clean and not longer than yours.” Finally, he warned me to observe the way that the guy treated his mom. He would say that the way a guy treats his mom is a gauge of how he will treat you.” These were all proverbs of Chuck Brown. I’m not telling you that you should make this the gospel for your daughter, but they definitely offer very interesting food for thought. My dad would say, “Just say no,” as my date and I left the house. He was a card indeed, I may have been embarrassed at the time, but I knew that he loved me and knew that he cared. Be sure to share with your daughters what the Word states in 1Corinthians 3:16, 17: “Know ye not that ye are the temple of God; if any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy.” Remember the scripture that says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth good and obtaineth favor of the Lord.” This scripture implies that the wife is found, not the husband. So mothers, tell your daughters to let the men find them. That means to stop chasing and shadowing men. My earthly father would say, “Make sure that the guy cares more for you than you do for him.” My personal advice to our daughters would be to make sure the guy loves God more than he loves you. If a man desires first to please his Heavenly Father, God will direct him in loving you. Men desire to marry ladies, and hang out with “hoochies.” Mothers, tell your daughters that they do not have to accept anything and everything to have a man in their lives. It is God’s will that you have standards, and heaven knows that you do not have to lower your standards to get a man. Get in touch with your spirit. Find out what the Word says about you keeping yourself. You will find that by keeping the cookie jar closed, the losers will leave, while the good ones will remain. Be careful not to partake of man’s goods. If a man desires to give you a gift, understand that there may be strings attached. If you are receiving gifts, he could be expecting something in return. Don’t settle for the game. You may think that the guy is nice and has a good heart, but he may have hidden motives. Just ask yourself how many things in life are actually free? Communicate to your daughters that love gives and lust takes. If boyfriend is worried solely about his needs and disregarding what you stand for, he’s not worthy of your time. Girls, please don’t feel pressured by the ole line that suggests, “If you love me, you would …” Your response should be, “If you love me, then you should not want to assist me in disappointing my heavenly Father.” He too needs to imitate God. Would Jesus have approached a female in that manner when he walked the earth? I think not! An evil man will tell a woman anything. Pay attention to action, because actions do speak louder than words.