Momma's Damn Philosophy

Have you ever noticed?

When a person is talking to you, have you ever noticed they use their hands, body, and facial expressions to help them along and to express their feelings? Why?  Feelings can be words expressed in a different language, in body language. Have you, ever noticed yourself doing such a thing?  Maybe you wrinkle the top of your brow. Maybe, you just gave the person you are talking to a blank stare while waiting for a response. What response did you expect them to give you, when you did that? What were you thinking? Were you trying to send a message? Were you expecting them to understand what you wanted? If you had moved your lips, what would you have said? Using only body language to communicate is acting out your feelings. Maybe, you do it, because something is suppressing you. Something may be holding you back from saying, what you really want to say.

Acting out your feelings can arise in many situations, and the reasons behind it, for the most part, are because of a feeling of restraint. Feeling like you are not able to speak freely. Being afraid of what you want to say or scared that you might get into trouble, or maybe you are just down right shy. What ever it may be, however, it is just another form of language.

Have you ever thought; “I think my friend is upset because of the way he/she is acting?” What gave you that impression? Was it their words, their actions, or maybe the tone of their voice? It may very well be that it was nothing that you did to make them upset but most people would ask; “Are you mad at me?” Being afraid to speak can be a big problem. Everyone really wants to express their feelings, whether it be by talking, acting it out (in body language), singing, dancing, writing poetry, writing a book, drawing, etc…  Even the child that talks rather loudly while in your presence and/or stomping through the room, sounding like a heard of elephants is attempting to express his feelings.

Animals Interpretations:

Animals look at our body language more than anything else, to understand us. They will watch our facial movements, such as the way we wrinkle our lips or raise our brow. They hear our words, and hear the tone of our voice when we are displeased. They do not understand the concepts of the spoken word, but they learn the proper response to the sound and pitch of certain commands. If spoken softly they know everything’s alright, if loud and deep, they know to back off. This is just one of the many examples of what language is. 

Crybaby, between the ages of Newborn and Preteen:

Here is yet, another example. When we are born, we learn to communicate, better known as a Crybaby; between the ages of a newborn and three years old. As we grow, we learn new and different forms of language.

A baby is born into the world. When he cries we know that something is upsetting him. We look around to see what it is. As we observe and study them over a period of time, we learn that for every different form of cry the baby produces, that they have a different need to be brought to our attention. We learn that every cry is different. One cry may be deep; perhaps the deep cry is for a sharp pain in their belly from gas. A soft cry may be informing us that they want to be held. For every reason, there is a different tone of cry. The baby learns to manipulate a cry to get your response. They know that you respond a different way for the different cries they produce. The Adults Language to the infant is how we would respond to their actions in our words, tone, and, of course, the touch when we approach.

So, from birth to age two or three, we act out our feelings by crying or throwing fits.

Toddler to Preteen:

From age three to ten, we learn to speak and form sentences so we physically act out and speak our words out to communicate! We might not know just what to say, but we do get our point across. For instance, two toddlers sit together and play with blocks. One is mad and says, “NO,” while grabbing the block back from the other. The other toddler responds by pushing him down and taking the block back. Of course, we then have the cry for help, knowing mother would come running to the rescue when they are in it too deep and they can no longer fend for themselves. His language would be to, first speak within their ability, then to act out their emotions. When all else fails they then move on to verbally and physically act out to be seen, heard, and felt in the form of aggression. They learn to communicate with all of the means at their disposal and to the best of their knowledge.   

When a six year old comes out to see that his sibling is riding his/her bike without permission, he does everything that he/she can think of, to let them know what they are u