The Me in We

Introduction

This book, The Me in We is the third in a series, which was preceded by the books: Femininity: Your Gift and Masculinity: Strength under Control.  The book chronicles the entire series presented in the form of sections, each dedicated to the discovering of femaleness, maleness and those in relationships or those seeking to be.  This diary looks at personal development in relationships and how fortunate we are to be different yet complimentary.  It highlights the uniqueness of relationships, celebrates the unions and the individuals in it.  This work was inspired by the first compositions.  The author observed how we as a society fall very short in the area of communicating to one another our needs.  This observation revealed that many people transmit mixed messages, because they themselves are unaware of their own needs.  The hope is that by the time individuals read this text, true self actualization is well underway.  The old saying, you can’t love someone else, until you first love yourself, still holds true.  When you know you’re valuable and enter a relationship with one aware of the same, a healthy relationship is truly possible.

The section, Femininity: Your Gift was a gift given to me to share with you.  This section celebrates our femaleness.  It developed out of my experience first as a female and secondly out of the recognition women need to love and celebrate themselves again.  It became very apparent to me, when I became a displaced worker in a predominately male organization, what power women possess.  When I speak of power, I refer to the uniqueness of being female.  Men are born of females, and innately notice our difference.  Yet we as women often do not and what’s worse we discount it.  In this organization, I was a custodian, even though I had a degree at that time, it was the only work I could get. And let me tell you how wonderful and grateful I am because of this experience.  This section will reflect many of the truths I learned during that experience.  So ladies get ready to rediscover the woman within.

The section, Masculinity: Strength under Control was inspired by the life of Nathaniel King.  A man who profoundly walked in his maleness with dignity, finesse and honesty.  This work is designed to celebrate the manchild from birth to death.  The author wishes to honor every man, with the following proclamation, I love you.  I can’t imagine life without you.  As a psychologist, daily your significance gains prominence with all of us.  You define our world, you give women reasons to assist and children reasons to believe.  The goal in this writing was to convey to you how significant, valuable and necessary you are in our world.  When you are in your rightful place, all the cloudiness of life disappears, for anyone who knows you.  One man said, a man out of place, leaves his wife displaced and his children disgraced.  Please give us someone to believe in.