Help God I'm Single But I Don't Want To Be

Confessions of the Heart

These are some of the confessions of men and women who have grown weary in their minds. These are the secret sins they don’t want anybody to know about.

(Brother 1) “Who me?  I didn’t say that I had sinned. I’m content in Jesus.  I look at all the sisters that way.  I was just messing with them.  Just giving them a little sister - to - sister loving, that’s all.  I was just messing.”

(Sister 1)  “No, I wasn’t coveting anybody or anything.  I think that couple looks so nice.  I was just watching them.  When I said I thought they held hands all the time and wore matching clothes to show off, I didn’t mean anything by it.  They’re really cute.  I’m not jealous.”

(Sister 2)  “No, I like the way the brother walks.  In fact, I like the way he talks too.  He’s so full of the Word of God, but I’m just waiting on Jesus.  I’m not in a hurry.  Oh no, been there before.  I know I’ve been delivered.”

(Sister 3)  “God, I really thought this was the one.  I know you said he’d find me.  Yeah, I know I saw him, but he was looking at me first.  I heard him pray, and I believe he could pray down the walls of Jericho.  Please God can I have him? Please, Please!  I want that one right over there, the one with the big cross around his neck. I know God sent him just for me.  Hallelujah!”

(Brother 2)  “Oh Lord, that sister. Um God, she’s so full of the Holy Ghost. I know she is.  She shouts every Sunday.  I’ve even seen her shouting without the music. God, I believe I found my good thing.  Lord, I know she’s the one.  Every time I get near her I hear her saying Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, and all I can say is Lord, have mercy.  Can I have her Lord?  If you say yes, I won’t ask for anything else for a long, long time.”

The Bottom Line

After all the advice I had been given and didn’t really want, I found that getting wrapped up in Jesus is our only ticket to real freedom.  Everything that we need is in Him.  He will fulfill our desires in His time.

Deep down, I knew this was right, but I just wanted an easy way out. When people came to me, if I felt they weren’t compassionate I would use it as an excuse to follow afar off.  In other words, I would not give God my best love or my best service.  If I was discouraged, I would tune people out a lot faster.

It takes a lot of wisdom to minister to single people.  It also takes a lot of patience and love. Many times when people seek counseling, they already have an idea of what they should be doing.  They just want to hear someone else say it. When we humble ourselves before those who seek help and serve them, God can work much faster.  Sometimes they just want a listening ear or a spiritual shoulder to lean on.  They need someone to encourage them that God is faithful, and His love for them really is unconditional.

Remember:  If we feel that we must correct or confront, it should always be done in love and with a pure motive.  Some people think that it’s their life ministry gift to put people in their place.  The strong ought to bear the infirmity of the weak, so if someone came to you or sought you out to talk to, then they must have seen the light of God in your life.  They trusted that you would listen and not judge. So speak the truth, but do it in love and remember, love never fails.