Ladies, Choose the Boring Guy

After I wrote the book, “In Search of Mr. Right,” I received responses from women in different parts of the country.  Even though they enjoyed the book, they still allowed the Mr. Wrongs to victimize them sexually, emotionally, and psychologically.  Even though many of these women knew not to let these men get close to them sexually, they were still afraid to ask these guys the tough questions that they needed to ask in finding out where these men stood on marriage and lifelong commitments, because they feared being alone in their single world.   Once these women gave in sexually to these guys, the questions about commitment were irrelevant, because the man accomplished what he set out to do which was to get the woman in bed for sex.  As a result, these women found themselves in a relationship based on nothing more than sex with a slim likelihood of lifelong partnership.  Mr. Wrong had just used them because they were blinded by the hope of a one on one relationship perpetrated by a guy who had no intentions of fulfilling the reality of that hope to begin with.

After Mr. Wrong conquers his conquest, when the woman tries to talk to him about a lasting relationship, he gets irritated by the questioning ultimately fabricating a major argument for the purpose of carving out a pathway for escape from the shaky relationship to move on to the next victim.  The tragedy of this whole thing is that the women are left wondering what’s wrong with them instead of questioning the big time loser of a guy who just used them for his own selfish satisfaction.  Women!  Wake up and start stopping Mr. Wrong in his tracks!  Stop letting these bozos use you like a pimp uses his women.  You deserve far better than what you’re getting but you have to start drawing the line.

There are women sleeping around with a guy who tell her how beautiful she is and how badly he wants her, yet not once, does he ever mention marriage or lifelong commitment.  And if he does, it is merely his plan to win her over to getting in her pants.  The woman waits months and sometimes years for the man to pop the question with that question never coming.  There are women who give the best years of their youth to some guy who ends up dumping them for another woman anyway.  The woman is left devastated at the fact that her dream of marrying this man has been dashed all because she was used from the very beginning by a guy who never had any intentions of marrying her to begin with.  This is whom you would call Mr. Wrong.  He’s only looking out for himself, not the woman.  He’s only sticking around until boredom sets in.  Then he will concoct some story to get out of his relational dilemma or simply quit trying to make the relationship work once he tires of working at it.

In this book, I will show you what Mr. Wrong looks like and why the so-called “Boring Guy is probably the best choice for you in the long run.  You should know that the wrong guy can be very charming, alluring, sophisticated, and good looking.  But his qualifications lack what you’re really looking for in a soul mate that you’re planning on spending the rest of your life with.  As a woman, you’re going to have to develop endurance and self-assurance about yourself in dealing with these smooth talking men who are out to use you from the very beginning.  Now lets get started in stopping Mr. Wrong in his tracks, but before we do, you as a female must learn to choose the boring guy, especially if you have issues.  Your behavior must be adjusted in producing right choices in choosing what many women perceive as the boring guy who really isn’t boring at all.

Understand that this book isn’t for every woman.  I know that there are a number of women who are not looking for a soul mate, just a playmate.  They are content being single and sexually active with no strings attached.  They are satisfied with their sex life, multiple partners, and alternative lifestyle outside of marriage.  In fact, many of these types of women have given up on conventional marriage all together.  They are out for a good time that includes sex in a myriad of ways.  This book is not for you at this particular time in your life, if that kind of woman is you.  However, if and when you tire of your non-monogamous lifestyle, this book will be perfect reading for you as well.  Why, because you’re much more than what you’ve become in the sight of God.  For the women who are interested in choosing the right mate, this book is a gold mind of information in helping you make correct decisions leading to your ultimate goal of marital oneness.

Having said that, I started writing this book about how to stop Mr. Wrong in his tracks, but during the course of my research, I discovered that many women will choose Mr. Wrong anyway because of issues in their own personal lives stemming all the way back to childhood that has effected their self-image.  This book was supposed to be a follow-up to my earlier book entitled, “In Search of Mr. Right.”  However, in spite of knowing better, women are still choosing emotionally abusive men over guys who will treat them like the queens that they are because of their own bad perception of themselves.

Why do so many women make the same bad decisions regarding men over and over again even though she knows he has doggish emotionally detached tendencies and why is she naturally attracted to this kind of man instead of the spiritually and emotionally stable o