The Bitch Left

Whilst walking around in a bookstore in Memphis, my girlfriend was looking for a book to give her friend as a gift to help cheer her up after her divorce, she was looking at books with titles such as “Life after him" and “We don’t need men” or something to that demeaning effect, cataloguing men as the root of all evil when it comes to the break up of relationships. Admittedly though if you look back over the past few decades then it has always appeared that Men did in fact dish out the crap when it came to the end of a relationship. It was the done thing he would just announce that he didn’t have any interest in her any more, swing his coat over his shoulder and then walk out the front door leaving the Woman in tears screaming after him that she loves him and always will but her words would fall on deaf ears as he just calmly walks off into the night. It was the Manly way to do it, anything else just wasn’t done, I mean we couldn’t have men admitting that they actually LOVED someone could we, that just wasn’t how it was done. I learned on my travels through the Middle East that their way of thinking is still pretty much back there with our cavemen. For instance to get divorced an Arab just has to say, “I divorce thee, I divorce thee, I divorce thee” and hey presto he is divorced and the woman gets nothing. However in the real World I do believe that things are changing the question that Men can feel brave enough to ask now is, What about the way that MEN feel when it happens to us? By that I mean when our wives or girlfriends leave us! Contrary to main belief, MEN DO CRY, and in my case I think that I cried enough for a life-time in that 12 month period when my wife decided to leave me. Many women reading the last paragraph might laugh and stand united for the feminist movement and be the first to shout who gives a Shit about the way you MEN feel, yes' you’ve been treating us women like crap for years” Some men probably have indeed been treating women like crap for years, however ladies there are a few decent Men out there who do love their partners and would do anything for them. I know that many of you might find that a disturbing and a disbelieving idea that MEN are capable of love, but I’m sure you’ll find it one day, and that is not meant to be condescending in anyway he really is out there. So because of what happened to me I decided then, whilst thinking how unfair it was that I couldn’t see any books on the subject of how we feel after the WOMAN leaves, to set my experience down on paper not in the hope of gaining a great fortune if this book ever gets published, (although money in vast amounts is always nice) but in the hope that it might help other’s in the world who have to go through the same pain as me and help them get through it because while you have to go through it you feel that no-one in the world has ever felt this bad when a relationship ends, and that no-one could ever feel anywhere near as bad as youI want to just assure you that they have, they do and they always will. All that I do hope is it does help you see that everything will one day be ok .it takes a long time to forget and some say that you will never get over it, but the pain does ease..slowly..very slowly and perhaps you do not want to believe it right now especially if it is happening to you but it will. In some small ways you don’t want the pain to end because you know that it will only stop when one of two things happen, one is that you get back together and live happily ever after and never look back on what has happened, or the other is that you know you’ll never get back together and will have completely finished. It’s a very thin line in your mind and you fear crossing it in case it’s the wrong answer. I hope for your sake that you cross the line and get the answer that you need. Emotional problems can’t be fixed by anyone else or by anything else. Some take pills some have therapy, they work for some people and they don’t for others. I decided not to do either. I knew that I had to find a way out of this for myself because the pills and the therapy will only last so long and can’t be there forever. So I decided to go it alone. This is my story of what happened to me.