Lady in Public. . .A Freak in the Bedroom

INTRODUCTION

The title of my book ignited some interesting reactions. People were excited, uncomfortable, or unsure what to think.  One thing was certain; the title sparked curiosity in practically everyone that heard it.

One of the most amusing reactions I received was from a disc jockey.  I was asked to do an interview on a gospel radio station. He was broadcasting from a trade show, where I was promoting my book.  When the disc jockey saw the title, he walked away for a moment and returned with an apology. He said that he could not allow me to promote my book on his station because of his “obligation to God and his listeners.”  I briefly explained that FREAK was an acronym, and that I was also a Christian. But, I told him I understood his position and was fine with it. 

When I reached to take my FREAKY card from his hand, he asked if he could keep it.   He told me that he wanted to “pray on it.”  He further stated that he was married, and the information might be helpful.  I walked away with a grin on my face thinking about how hypocritical it was for him to say the things he said, and still want to keep the card which exposed half of my body in a suit and the other half in fishnet lingerie.

In February of 2003, I lead a seminar entitled, “What Do Men Really Want from Women?”  The conversations that took place during that meeting inspired me to write this book.  I included some of the responses to the survey throughout the chapters.

On a personal level, I represent the Christian women that do not mind admitting they enjoy sex.  Of course, you must be married and have some limitations when it comes to your freakiness.

We are failing the tests of life miserably and my concern is for children.  Our ignorance has impacted their lives, and we are seeing evidence of that through the vast array of problems, they are having socially. 

Your attitude towards sex and understanding of acceptable alternatives need to be clear, preferably before you get married. It is important to have a balance between the expectations of your religion and the reality of the world in which we live. Being single and uninhibited has negative consequences as being married and totally inhibited.

I am a neutral party in this gender gap.  I have passion for people and I see the sexual issues from both women and men’s perspectives.

Part I, Lady in Public-- is a comprehensive review of what it means to be a lady.  High-level wellness is characterized by physical, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual balance.  You will be taken through 8 levels to finding your purpose.  Everyone is not going to make it to Level 8 in this life; therefore, it is important to focus on reaching your individual maximum capacity for growth.

Part II, A FREAK in the Bedroom--was written to bridge the gaps between spirituality and sexuality.  Sexual disagreements along with financial problems are still the primary reasons why men and women decide to leave their marriages.

This is a generalization, however, I feel comfortable saying men are very sexual, visual, and serious when it comes to getting their “FREAK on.”   I want us to level the playing field. 

I asked the men at my seminar if a FREAK would make a good wife. The response was 100%...“Yes!”  Freak’s come in all sizes, shapes, colors, cultures, and genders. They are not necessarily promiscuous, but do exhibit above average skills in the bedroom.

There are several factors that contribute to a good relationship. The areas that we are going to discuss are the women’s responsibilities, simply because this book was written for you.  Men will follow our lead; they want answers just like we do.  So, let’s refrain from pointing the finger and begin by correcting our behavior.

In interviews with women that were having affairs with married men, there was a common response.  The mistresses justified their actions by saying that their “services would not have been needed if the wife would have been doing her job.” 

Infidelity is wrong, however, the mistresses do have a point.  In some instances wives may be lacking a few skills in the bedroom.  After all, the majority of our knowledge comes from our personal experiences; therefore, some of us have more information than others.  

My desire is to bridge the sexual gap that exists, and help the wives decrease their husbands’ vulnerability to having affairs and also to improve the self-esteem of the mistresses, so they will no longer accept the position of second.  Once they become comfortable with who they are, is when effective and positive change will come. 

My parents stayed married for 47 years...they literally let death be the only thing to part them.  A solid marriage is priceless.  We will have those types of successful relationships again.  Ladies, let’s tighten up our game and take it to the next level, in and out of the bedroom.

And to you men out there…

While the book speaks specifically to women, men are encouraged to read it as well.  Since our issues mirror y