HOW TO CATCH - AND KEEP - A MAN

NINE WAYS TO GET A MAN’S INTEREST

A woman may develop wrinkles and cellulite, lose her waistline, her bustline, her ability to bear a child, even her sense of humor, but none of that implies a loss of her sexuality, her femininity--
Barbara Gordon

Many men are interested in almost anything a woman is interested in. He shows that interest genuinely or, even if he has only a light or a passing interest, he will attempt to become interested.  He will do this, first, so as not to offend you, and second, because he believes your relationship will move along better if he gets interested in your interest.  In that way, you both benefit.

Men are very adaptable and resourceful, having the ability to comment on and ask questions about nearly any subject you may raise.  Because of that, you can reach common ground fairly easily.

The following nine ways to get his interest should benefit you as you work to get into his thinking and become a part of his thoughts.

1.  LEARN THE ART OF LIGHT FLIRTING.  Once a woman touches the arm of a man while she talks to him, he will quickly give her his undivided attention.  He won’t really know what it means, but his interest is up, and he wants to learn why she touched his arm.

There are many little subtle things a woman can do when she employs “light” flirting, such as asking his opinion about her fragrance, her blouse, her scarf, or hair.  She can look him in the eye and smile while coyly dropping her head a bit, or she can even wink when he or she says a little flirtatious word.

2.  LEARN THE ART OF “HEAVY” FLIRTING.  This is entirely different than “light” flirting.  When she is making a strong, direct move, she may do “secret,” more coercive things, like touching his foot (or even leg) with her toe.

She may comment on his broad shoulders or muscular arms or cute physique or manly body.  She can tease him a bit about his “gorgeous” eyes.  More physically, she may touch his face–mouth or nose or eyebrows or beard–and make a complimentary remark.

She may engage him in fairly direct, personal conversation about certain views he holds, as she explains her (possible “forward”) point of view on the subject.

If you choose to be more direct by “heavy” flirting, you should recognize the potential downside.  It may cause a man to think you are too fast too early or that you tend to be more “loose” than you should be.  Balance your actions with your perception of what you think he expects.  It would always seem to be appropriate for a woman to seek the honor and respect of the man.

3.  APPLY BOTH ARTS APPROPRIATELY.  In the two preceding sections, the arts of light and heavy flirting were shown to be effective ways to get the interest of the man.  If they are not overdone, they can be very effective, but, as was noted, there are perils.

First, if the man perceives that you are too brazen, he may try to take advantage of you.  Second, on the other hand, he may develop a distaste for the approach.  One way to prevent both is to be cheerful and enthusiastic during all conversation.

Avoid getting serious or “provocative” to the point of misleading the man.  No teasing would be in order at this point.  You are only getting his interest here; you are not going for a kill.

4.  SMILE AT THE MAN.  With certainty, you may expect him to smile back.  He may even bump into a post or stumble over something to be sure that you see him return your smile, and it’ll probably be his best, at least his natural smile, because he will be caught off guard if you smile before he does and not have a chance to frame it or pose or fake it.

The woman’s smile opens mouths, doors, hearts, and conversations.  Use it wisely and cautiously, but often and sincerely.  Couple it with appropriate words or gestures or actions.  You are not posing for a picture; you are simply warmly communicating to a man who you hope will respond with like friendliness.

5.  SPEAK TO HIM.  It’s okay if the woman speaks first to the man.  A simple “hello” is not out of place, nor is it “too forward” or a sign of a loose woman.  If you speak, he will speak.

An unprovocative tone coupled with a nice smile and interesting, say-something-to-me eyes will not fail you.  The modern man will speak and add a question most likely.