Some people have always looked down on the
homosexual. Looked down may be an understatement. Let’s just say some folk have
an extreme dislike for people who are in a sexual relationship with a person of
the same sex. I have never felt this way. Even before it became clear to me
that my brother was gay, I just never felt this way. You see, I was always just
the kind of person who loved people for who they were. I believe everyone has
some kind of individual uniqueness about themselves, no matter what their faults.
Now some people I could take or leave, but they still had something special
that nobody else in the world had. No I do not condone homosexuality. Nor do I
condone fornication, adultery, lying, gossip or anything else that is not in
the way of God, but I believe God has given us all the choice to do right or
wrong. And to know right, and do wrong is a sin. All sin stinks to Gods
nostrils. ALL SIN! People have this belief that some sins are bigger than
others, which couldn’t be more far from the truth. So I loved my brother just
the same. As big as love could get. We always had a special bond from when we
were just little kids. It was six of us kids that my parents brought into this
world, but Keithy and I always just connected.
Can you imagine carrying around with you feelings of
being a failure all of your life? My brother felt that he was a disappointment
to our parents, especially to our father. Everyone in our community respected
my father, who was always the big strong athletic type. Almost being accepted
in the football and baseball profession, he was very pleased when his first
born was of the male gender. At a young age, my father continuously took my
brother out with a baseball bat and glove, trying to prepare Keith for his
future. Time after time, my father would become irritated and frustrated from
my brother’s lack of interest in these games. As Keith grew, my father would
continue to persistently encourage him to try out for the wrestling and
football team, but could not understand how a child with the same blood running
through his veins could not be interested in sports. My brother was indeed very
athletic and had the size to play, but had no interest what so ever in these
games. There were times when my father would keep Keith outside for hours,
pushing him to the limits hoping to heighten his skills and interest. Becoming
more frustrated by the minute, my father’s voice tone would become more stern
and his patience more short. Until my mother would scream from a window, “Leave
him alone and bring him inside!” Throughout the years, my father would
eventually come to accept this, but there would always be something that just
was not quite right within their relationship. Due to my father’s not being
able to understand his son’s ways, Keith would always be more connected to our
mother. I remember the need she felt to always protect him through the years.
Eventually, I too took on the task of feeling the need to protect my brother;
he earned this respect from me. Always caring for his younger siblings when our
parents were not at home, Keith would care for us and do whatever needed until
they would arrive back home. He was just a special person to me, and I always
felt special and blessed to be his sister.
I remember when I was about 7 years old. It was a
very hot and sticky night. There were two beds, six little children ranging
from ages 6 to 12 years old and one portable fan in the room. I remember as if
it were yesterday. Keith took that old fan, put it on the floor, tied the
middle of the sheet to the handle, took the edges of that sheet and placed them
under the outside of the fan. When the air blew, it formed like a tunnel that
was filled with air. He woke me up quietly so no one else would hear and told
me to come down on the floor where it was cooler so I could sleep more
comfortably. That was my big brother. He did so many kind things like that over
the years. Things that nobody else would do. They were small things, but
special things that I will never forget. This relationship lasted. We were
inseparable until the day he died. My marriage and the birth of my two children
didn’t change that. A special relationship, that’s what it was and I’ll miss
this relationship until the day I leave this world.
It was 1989, my husband, son and I were just moving
from Germany. Having been stationed there for three years, I was so pleased to
be coming home. I was always, let’s just say addicted to my family and seemed
to have a need to be around them constantly. I knew Mom would be waiting for my
family and me with a big smile on her face. She prayed for this day. My husband
also seemed to be pleased, since having to pay a huge telephone bill every
month that would always leave us short without money for other diversions.
Looking back as if it were yesterday, my family and
I stepped into the doors of 114 Anderson St. in Middletown, De. This was the
home in which I grew up. Mom was talking on the phone and my father lying back
in his recliner watching television. The instant we walked through the door, Mom
screamed, dropped the phone and covered her face. As if her eyes were playing
tricks on her, she then quickly dropped her hands from her face to see if we
were real. Holding her hands out for her grandson and motioning for him to come
to her, her smile was unmovable. In the beginning, he was a little shy and
cried when she pulled him close, but that didn’t bother her in the least. Mom
kissed my son and held him close to her until I almost had to pry him from her
arms for my turn. Almost an hour later when my brother Keith heard that his
little sister was back in town, I could hear him coming from a mile away.
Singing that old church hymnal “Yes, Jesus Loves Me,” I could spot that voice
from any other in the world. He loved to sing and constantly did. Keithy
started singing with the Dale’s Youth Choir at the tender age of 7 years of
age. A choir my Aunt Susie [my mother’s sister] started with all of her nieces
and nephews. It wasn’t long before Aunt Susie realized that Keithy was blessed
with a beautiful singing voice and she gave him his first solo called, “Oh
Happy Day.” When the choir would sing that song the whole congregation would
rise to their feet and give God praise. It seemed like that song would last for
hours. “Praise God,” the congregation would shout for what seemed like an
eternity. Before long, Keith began singing solo’s on his own. Going to a
variety of churches using the gift that God blessed him with, touching souls
everywhere. The good Lord even blessed him with a sweet elderly lady from the
neighborhood named Marjorie Watson to take him to and from different
engagements. When Keith was old enough, he left his home church and took
membership at a church in Summit Bridge, De. Stating, “Chile, I got to go where
they really know how to praise the Lord.” He left me, the rest of the choir and
for me the Dales Youth Choir was never the same. Truth of the matter is, Keith
never seemed to stay at one place too long. Of course, I saw him each day, but
on Sunday’s he went where they really praised God. Well that was until he moved
on again. Keith wasn’t there too long either and I don’t think t