Introduction
The events in this book took place while we were on the
farm down in Alabama. My mom and dad were bringing
up eleven children while at the same time they were trying
to make ends meet.
Back then, having a gang of children was not rare. Taking
care of them and seeing to it that they survived to become
grown was.
All the events in this book are true. The names of folks
other than those of the Young family and their spouses
have been changed, to protect their privacy.
These events took place from the time that I was born,
November 18, 1952, until February 1964. There are some
mentions of events that took place before I was born, while
some of the family lived in the old house "Across the
Creek."
Co-Editors, the Youngs:
Pollie Alice Parhams (Tur)
Aner Ruth Young (Ruth)
Lizzie Ree Young (Lizzie Ree)
Woodrow Young (Buck)
John Wilmer Young (Little Buddy)
Annette Smith (Annette)
Nancy Mae Williams (Nancy)
In Memory of: William Gomez Young (Gomez)
Yvonna Williams (Von)
Sammie Maye Moore (Doll)
The Will and the Way
When I was eleven years old, each Sunday I would go
down to the cellar of our house in San Francisco to be
alone. There I prayed to God to let us go back to our farm
in Alabama, or to let me awaken from what I hoped was a
long sleep, so I would find myself back home. Alabama
had been home for me, and this new place wasn't. I had
been born there, any my memories were of the times on the
farm.
Looking back, it doesn't seem so long ago that I was a little
girl growing up in that big, old, drafty house on the farm
down in the woods of Perote, Alabama. But it has been a
long, long time. Perote is a small, quiet, and slow-moving
place way back in the woods. Because it is so far, the little
community where we lived in called "Jamback." And
because it is so small, it is often a target for small-town
jokes, such as "By the time the rear end of your car reaches
the Welcome to Perote sign, you have already left Perote."
And "Don't blink, or you will miss it."
Daddy was a scrapping five feet, four inches. But he
carried himself as though he were ten feet tall. He was a
sensitive and caring man, but he did not make a practice of
letting folks see the sensitive and caring side. Not even his
family got to see this side often. Even though he was a kind
man, he believed that if you showed a person too much
kindness, they would most likely walk on you. Since he
was a private man, he kept to himself a lot. Therefore, he
was not an easy person to get to know. Most folks thought
that he was mean to the core. And most folks were afraid
of him.
Daddy had many sayings that he felt would justify his
actions. "Do unto others before they do unto you" was one
of them. And he did his best to live by this belief. If he felt
that someone was going to do harm to him or to his loved
ones, Daddy did not wait for them to act. He acted first.
Another one of his sayings was, "I don't just play railing
for railing, I tear the whole damn fence down!" And if
someone did harm to us, he did not get even, he got
revenge.
When Daddy believed that we were right, he supported us
with all his might. He did not want anyone else to
discipline us. He felt that was his job. At school, the
teachers were permitted to whip the students when they felt
that a whipping was in order. For instance, if a child did
not turn in homework or if they talked in class, they got a
whipping. Daddy was against this way of thinking. He
wanted the teachers to tell him. Then he would make the
final decision about what would be done.
Daddy told us if the teachers tried to whip us, tell them the
following: "My daddy said don't whip me on my hands
because I have to work with my hands. Don't whip me on
my back because I have to lay on my back. Don't whip me
on my legs because I have to walk on my legs. Don't whip
me on my behind because I have to sit on it." His message
was: don't whip his children. He was quite capable of
doing that. He said he was sending us to school to learn.
Any disciplining that was needed, he would do. And when
he felt that we needed it, we got it.
He did not believe in public displays. But just as soon as
the family was alone, he took care of the situation. If he
felt that an outsider was wrong in their opinion of us, he let
them know it. And he made sure that they knew how he
felt about them too. He did not hold us accountable for their
mistakes.
One time I ordered some items from a catalogue. I did not
know that I was supposed to sell them and send the
company a portion of the money. All I saw was the word
FREE in bold letters. I was probably six years old at the
time. I was just old enough to fill out the order blank,
address the envelope, put it in the mailbox, and lift the flag
for the mailman to pick up the letter. When the items
arrived in the mail, as far as I knew, they were mind. I did
not read, nor did I know to read, the "fine print." I opened
the box of goodies and I used them. They were perfumes,
ointments and other such goodies. I shared them with my
friends and with my family. We enjoyed them.
I got lots of letters from the company. But since they were
not offering more free stuff, I threw the letters away. After
a while, a man from the company came down to our house.
I saw him when he drove up. We all did. I also heard him
talking to Daddy. He told Daddy that I had taken some
goods from their company. He also told him that they had
requested payment on several occasions, but I had not paid.
He told Daddy that I could go to jail if I did not pay right
away.