For people of faith, sex has been a sensitive and controversial subject. Over the past fifty years, thousands of couples from all walks of life and ranks of leadership in the church and community have confided their marital problems to me. Woven throughout their brokenness, a common thread is their struggle to get on the same page with each other sexually.
For many couples, there has been a disconnect between their spirituality and their sexuality. Many wives seem to be more comfortable with their spirituality than with their sexuality. In most cases, it was the opposite with their husbands, who tended to be more comfortable with their sexuality than with their spirituality.
Often, a husband’s fear of his wife’s response kept him from sharing his sexual desires with her. Simultaneously, his wife was too sexually timid to raise the subject with him. Overshadowing the intimate love life of these couples were feelings of shame, guilt, and a suspicion that abandoning themselves to times of sexual pleasure was forbidden to them as believers—even though they were married. Their sexuality was tearing them apart instead of bringing them together as God intended when he made us male and female.
In this book, you will find an honest boldness and frankness designed to remove the stigma traditional Christianity has attached to our sexuality. I have tried to use language that is plain enough to be practical, but delicate enough not to be offensive. You will be the judge of my success in this venture.
This book is not about how to have sex. It is about helping couples remove the shroud of secrecy from the subject and learn to share openly with each other their thoughts about this joyful gift of God. It is about breaking the silence of your bedroom.