Un-Dieting
Lose the Diets...Lose the Weight!
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The Birth of an Eating Disorder
Infants aren’t shy about being hungry. Why are we? Infants do not have eating disorders. All infants cry when they are hungry, approximately every three to four hours. In most homes, they are quickly offered food. They then eat until satisfied, no more, no less. And they usually make it really clear that they have finished--by turning their head away from the food, handing the spoon back to mom, or, in some instances, clearing the whole tray onto the floor!
As infants, we were clearly in touch with our hunger and clearly in touch with being satisfied. We repeated this process each day, every three to four hours, crying for food, without concern from mom that perhaps this was too many times a day to be fed. This happened for several years until someone decided to override our innate instincts by saying something like, “No, you’re not hungry yet...you’ll spoil your appetite for dinner.”
What happens when our parents and authority figures override our innate ability to eat when we’re hungry and stop when we’re full? We become programmed to believe that we don’t really know what we want...that our natural instincts are incorrect. In this process we are reprogrammed to rely on someone other than ourselves to determine how much we should eat and when we should eat.
We get further separated from our natural instincts with phrases like “Wait ‘til your father gets home” or “Why can’t you get on our schedule?” We stop believing that we know best about when it’s time to eat and we learn to trust only external cues about hunger. Yet when we examine these external cues, we find that they are ludicrous and make no sense. Each time we pay attention to those external cues, we become further and further divorced from natural instincts about eating...until all those instincts are extinct!
Fortunately, infants (unlike their older but less wise counterparts) tend to be very resistant to this process. After crying, being fed, and then determining that they are full, it is extremely difficult to get them to eat more. Coaxing and prodding usually gets ignored or resisted, and most infants are simply done eating, ready to move onto the next item of business. The infant does not care if there are three bites left in the jar. The infant does not care about whether or not that is wasteful. The infant does not care about whether other infants are starving in other parts of the world. The infant...is full.
In some families, the infant's cries indicating hunger pangs are totally disregarded, sometimes in favor of a schedule more convenient to the parent, and sometimes because of scarcity of food and financial straits. In these instances the child may grow up feeling trepidation that there won't be enough. This can, of course, lead to overeating and overcompensating for the possibility of scarcity.
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About the Book
The book Un-Dieting was born out of a lifetime of failed diets, addiction to food and drugs, frustration over not having the body we always wanted to have and years of experience working with eating disorders. After years of dieting, we finally learned that diets were the very thing keeping our weight on! Instinctively, we knew this must be true, because we finally were beginning to see that all the weight we lost from diets was regained… sooner or later. This book will teach you that the main reason we eat excess calories is due to excess hunger, which is direct result of diets and deprivation. Then we will show you why and how we “eat our emotions”, rather than expressing them. And most important, you will receive tools: tools for eliminating anger and resentment; tools for transforming fear and worry; and tools for communicating your wants and needs, so that you no longer have to eat your feelings. Lastly, you will notice that when you have self-esteem or confidence, you feel better, you perform better, you communicate better, your relationships are better, and your ability to lose excess weight is greatly enhanced. So, because self esteem goes hand in hand with success in every area of your life, you will receive 20 keys for raising self-esteem on a daily basis.
About the Author
Bio - Diana Diana Lipson-Burge, Registered Dietitian, founder of The Energy Resource and co-author of the book: Un-Dieting, Undoing the Diet Mentality and Staying Fit Forever. Diana has been a nutrition consultant for 27 years. She is recognized in Southern California as a leading expert in weight management, disordered eating, and sports nutrition. Her clients have included professional sports teams, Fortune 500 corporations, and entertainment-industry associations. Diana’s passion for helping others heal from disordered eating arose out of her own eating disorder, the roots of which she has traced to eating ice cream at the age of four while her mother was dying from lung cancer. In the last few weeks of her life, Diana’s mother could no longer talk, and sharing ice cream was their unspoken way of bonding during their remaining time together. It was not until Diana studied eating disorders in order to heal from her own that she discovered the connection between her love for ice cream and the loss of her mother, the key to her healing her eating disorder and helping others. Bio - Jackie Jackie Jaye-Brandt is a Corporate Communications Specialist/Organizational Psychotherapist and Lecturer. She holds Bachelor’s and Master’s Degrees in Psychology and is a licensed Psychotherapist with a private practice in Universal City, California. She is a key speaker for the Motion Picture and Television Fund Wellness Program, lecturing on: Communications Skills, Stress Management, Self-Esteem, Making Relationships Work, Reducing Anger, Overcoming Fear, Time Management, Finding your Passion, and The Power of the Mind. She has provided training and motivational services to a vast array of companies, including Warner Bros., The Walt Disney Co., Disney Imagineering, Fox Sports, Pritikin, Budget Rent-A-Car, and Harbor-UCLA Medical Center.