The Things I Learned After Being Kicked Out of Church

by Darla Hannah Melancon



Book Details

Language : English
Publication Date : 8/31/2010

Format : Softcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 160
ISBN : 9781452064970
Format : Hardcover
Dimensions : 6x9
Page Count : 160
ISBN : 9781452064987
Format : E-Book
Dimensions : E-Book
Page Count : 160
ISBN : 9781452064994

About the Book

This book is written for individuals that have felt alienated from God because the church failed.

After our son was sexually molested by another member of our church, Richard and I looked to our pastors to help us navigate through trauma and pain that such an event produces. Not only were our pastors ill equipped to direct us toward healing, they were unable to express empathy or support. Their solution was a "don't talk" rule and "just forgive" directive. When these failed to satisfy us, the senior pastor stated he would "released us to find healing somewhere else." In other words, we were KICKED OUT OF CHURCH.

Like so many people that have been wounded by the church or church people, our children were ready to just walk away from the church and the Lord. After all, how do you separate the two.? These were the only pastors our children had ever known. Our pastors had taught us to view the church as family. They had repeatedly reminded us, "We were in covenant relationship with the Lord and each other." Yet when life got ugly, they couldn't wait to get rid of us. How do you separate the truth from the lies after such rejection?

Richard and I have a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ that precedes our joining that church. We knew that Jesus had not treated us so coldly. We were not willing to walk away from Jesus. Yet we, too, needed to learn to separate Jesus from religious tradition and religious people. This is a recounting for that journey of learning to separate the God that loves us from the church that so often misrepresents Him. May it give you hope.

About the Author

Darla was born in to a pastor's household. The teachings of Jesus and the culture of the church are part of her earliest memories. At the age of seven, she asked Jesus to be Lord of her life. Darla met and married her best friend Richard, in college. She earned her registered nursing degree in 1986. Richard and Darla live in southern California. They have six children and two grandchildren .