No one gets married thinking that it will end. Spouses talk about their futures, growing old together, places they want to visit, their hopes, dreams and goals for themselves. If the marriage ends, does that mean we didn’t work hard enough? Didn’t try hard enough? Why couldn’t I make it work? With your view of the future now gone, there will definitely be feelings of loss. Recovery will take time and will be a process. You’ll also experience a lot of change. Friends will change, neighbors will view you differently, you may have to move to a new home and neighborhood, and your financial situation and your lifestyle may change. It’s normal and natural to feel the loss, and it is okay to be sad about it. Grieve the loss but then move on. You have a new life now and you need to find a way to embrace and enjoy it. Your life isn’t any worse; you are just on a different path. Reinvent yourself and your future.
Starting over is hard. Yet somehow we find the strength to go forward, create new traditions, set up new homes, and meet new people. Learn from the past and recognize that you have a new life now, with new and exciting opportunities and adventures ahead. The journey gets better from here.
Start by rediscovering your authentic self: Remember the girl who laughed, who was fun to be around, who liked to do new things? Yeah, that girl. Find her again. She’s still in there; she’s just been in hibernation. Enough time has been wasted being unhappy. It is time to reinvent yourself. No more time in bed with a box of tissues. Get out there, get in touch with your inner goddess, and rediscover your fabulous self—you’re an amazing woman!