‘Few of us are accepting of difficulties in our personal relationships. They are viewed as a sign that things have ‘gone wrong’, because conflict is out of place in a situation which we expect to be loving and harmonious.
The astrologer does not see things gone wrong; The astrologer sees things working out in the only way they can, for as long as a certain kind of situation and a certain kind of awareness come together.
Astrology cannot fix the conflict, but it can attempt to explain what is going on and why, and then there is a better chance of finding a different way of proceeding, with our lives and our relationships.
It is not disappointment and sadness caused by having hopes that are not fulfilled that ruins lives - we can usually get over that in time - but by the distrust, anger and bitterness caused by the belief that what has occurred is in some way aberrant and purposeless. These emotions are toxins and distort our way of looking at life. Eventually, by some or other means, Pluto will have to clear them out of our emotional body.
In times of change, and all times are times of change for those who have truly committed to spirituality, we need a different perspective and different expectations from those which regulated the lives of our parents and grandparents. Love has work to do in our world, and must be allowed to change the way its expresses itself in our lives.
The Twelfth Century Sufi mystic, Jelaluddin Rumi taught that relationship is made up, not of two, but of three components: self, other and the relationship itself.
In this work, this idea is adopted and enlarged.
The individuals – technique -concept: the Relating Self
Self & Other –technique: Synastry
The Relationship itself - technique: Compository
By these means, we look at relationship in a way that places it in the present, in the lives of people who want to use the opportunities that this time is bringing us’