WHERE WE ARE GOING?

In reading this book we will discuss the following topics:  We will consider how we got here, that it was completely random, and that we had no control over our race, our handicaps, our family, our looks or our basic intelligence.   We will become aware of the playing field and that we all have started the game the same way, in a different place and as different people.  We know that life and love involves some tragedy that cannot be avoided and that we must be prepared for random acts of life and not allow them to cause us to stop playing the game.  We should be living our lives to the fullest.  Random events will continually occur throughout our lives and we need to be prepared for anything. One of the most important issues in this book is to learn to be in control of our emotional responses instead of having our emotions control us.  If we are prepared for life, and the randomness of it, we will realize that there are things happening continually that we cannot control.   So we will attempt to become much better at just letting them go and dealing with them as rationally as possible.  We will have an understanding that the goal of the game is to find true happiness.  We will create certain realistic, attainable goals that we want to achieve that will help us to find true happiness. 

We will completely and totally accept who we are.  We will learn how to change the things we don’t like about ourselves and we will learn that we are completely and totally responsible for our own happiness.   We will learn that we are one hundred percent responsible for where we are today.  We will never depend on anyone else for anything ever again.  We will become aware of the importance of our conscience, and the need to become closer to it.   We will discover that our mind is simply a computer, and a filing cabinet, and that it reminds of us of what we have programmed into it.  We know that life is a roller coaster that will continually go from the top, to the bottom, and back up again, and that it is a wild ride and an adventure that we should enjoy being a part of.  We should enjoy every moment of it.  We know how important a proper attitude is and we will realize that worry simply causes more stress and anxiety in our lives, and that it is one of the main factors that will keep us from achieving our goals.  Stress and anxiety creates fear. 

We will strive to have a positive affect on every person we meet and every situation we are put into, and we will not allow random acts of life to negatively affect us.   No other person or event can negatively affect us unless we choose to allow it to.   It is our choice as to whether we are mad or sad or angry.  We are gong to control life instead of allowing life to control us.

We will comprehend the importance of time and understand that the past is simply a tool. We will not waste another minute of our lives trying to go backward.  We will better understand what true love is, and we will see that there is no logic to it. We will find out what it is we want in a relationship.  We will not let hate or unfounded love consume us.  We will know that “everything that has ever happened in our lives happened exactly the way it was supposed to”. We will learn that “the worst thing that ever happened to us is in reality, the best thing that ever happened to us”. We will realize that “whatever we think is going to happen is probably going to happen”.

Wow!  We are off to a pretty good start! 

            I think that at some point we should realize that we all need to quit looking backward and that we all need to start looking forward.  Have you ever noticed that when you think of a happy time in the past that it is very comforting.  It is like a soft little pillow that you can lay your head in and remember that once upon a time I was living exactly the way I wanted.  It may be our own personal little comfort zone, a security blanket, so to speak.  We need to somehow get out of the comfort zone and create a new pillow that is real and better than the past.  I want to have my life, my real life, be better than that past moment I once had.  If someone had it good once, they can do it again, and it will be even better because they are stronger and wiser than they were back then. 

            We will understand what it takes to be a friend and we will discover what to do to have people enjoy being around us?  It is not that difficult, in fact, the practice will be fun and the result will probably make life more enjoyable.

            More than anything we should understand that our unhappiness stems from not satisfying the needs of our conscience, or our spirit.  It is our true selves and we can’t ignore our basic needs.  We are going to work on training our mind and our ego.  Our conscience and our ego need to be on the same path and have similar goals.

   &nbs