FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE, FOREVER

Women and men spend months, even years, planning every detail of their wedding day. Yet, blinded by romance, they frequently marry someone they don''t really know. Think back to how many times you thought you knew everything there was to know about your partner. You believed that the person you were in love with was exactly whom he seemed to be. You were sure that he was your perfect match and your partner for life. Then, suddenly, without warning, disaster. The relationship was in shambles. Your mind was spinning. What went wrong?

Chances are, the signs were there all along. You just didn''t know what to look for. That''s what this book is all about. You will learn how to discover who your lover really is. It will open your eyes to help you make a thoroughly informed choice when you decide to make a commitment, or not to.

How many times have you asked yourself why good relationships are so hard to find? After all, look at the statistics. They are disastrous enough to alert us to the dangers of love at first sight. The headlines sum it up: One out of two first marriages ends in divorce. Sixty percent of second marriages fail. The explanation for this contemporary calamity lies in:

 ...   the mythical belief that love and romance conquer all adversity;

    few good role models when we were growing up, and

    a false sense of what healthy relationships really are due to misleading portrayals in movies, television, and popular music.

This book will not teach you how to flirt. Nor will it tell you where and how to go about meeting and finding a partner. But, by following the advice presented here, at last you can learn to become an expert in assessing who''s really right for you. It will give you the tools to come up with an evaluation similar to that of a trained therapist. A psychotherapist makes an assessment using ten key ingredients. Each ingredient is thoroughly explored to compile a complete picture of the client. How can we help someone if we don''t know who he is? By the same token, how can you truly love someone if you don''t know who he really is?

You must use these same key ingredients when you''re trying to evaluate your partner''s potential for a lifelong relationship. And by the way, our research found that it takes close to one year using our formula, to really discover who your partner is and isn''t. Unfortunately, there are no short cuts. And we promise that when you put our principles to the test, you''ll be able to recognize a truly healthy relationship and avoid the pitfalls and mistakes that cause you to give up on a relationship too soon or too late.