Nelson L. Moody, Sr.
This book will clearly show a father how to represent himself in the judicial system in reference to custody of his child/children for the good reasons and what’s best for them and not for vindictive, spiteful or cunning reasons. The book is also to improve the life of a father’s child/children spiritually, mentally, psychologically, emotionally, intimately, socially and eventually economically.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
As a soldier in The U.S.Army I measure my success the same way I measure it in all my passions of life. I may accomplish something and not benefit immediately,but in due time myself and others would profit. I’ve always been a man of virtue,standard and courage. I believe I had no choice. As far back as I could remember,I was titivated by my father. Whether scolding me for my wrongful actions,promoting me for my success or supporting me in my endeavors,he was there every step of the way.
I seek counsel in him for relationship guidance,life improvements or even future goals and dreams. He views me as a trophy symbolizing all he has worked for that has now passed on.Though on a wall or showcase I do not go,my path in life is highly favored by him and he would not expect anything but the best. A debt to him in which with all the money I will not be able to repay. Yet he still holds a bent paper plate of mine. A plate of a face with buttons for eyes,yarn for hair and kindergarten drawings for other facial features. Somewhere lies stacks of certificates of achievements,honor roll and perfect attendance. I don’t know where they are,for those where elementary achievements when I was young.
To a special dad they are priceless possessions. He may think he is in debt to me for my success,but that is an issue never discussed. My dad is an amazing individual. He may not be worldly known yet,in the community where I was raised he was a monarch figure. I strive to be on the same level. Read this book and his others and you will also want to follow him.
Nelson L. Moody, Jr.
PREFACE
Fathers face many barriers just trying to be a part of his child/children’s lives due to a break up of a father and a mother. Barriers fathers face are : society, judicial system, incarceration, angry mothers using a child/children as chess pieces and monopolizing the infrastructure of the family unit and the Senators ( legislation).
I then wrote a love story about the bonding between a father and his child/children, it’s now the time to show the formula to fathers. It’s now the time for law makers, and politicians to initiate legislation on issues involving fathers Issues that will affect a child/children spiritually, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, sociology and eventually economically.
Barriers ( something that separates), have been a negative thing in relation to a father being a part of his child/children’s lives. You have components in society that just seem to focus on and make it their business to keep a father ( the good ones) abstracted from their child/children by control within the systems- the judicial system, the department of social services and child support agencies ( since statistically it’s allege to be more fathers paying child support than that of mothers). This it self is, under no circumstances any reason for a father not to be involved with his child/children. A negative barrier within it self.
The department of social services seem to prefer the father not living in the same household as the mother, thus creating another barrier. Controlling this aspect is enough to break down the bond between a man and his child/children. The judicial system- with added contributional input from one of both of these systems seem not to be concerned about trying to protect the father’s rights as well as they do so good to protect the mothers. With these systems being barriers to the good fathers, sometimes incarceration occurs. A father is no good to his child/children incarcerated.
Another unfortunate barrier that can be classified as a obstacle also is when a father have to deal with an angry mother after a break up. The child/children now become chess pieces as the mother start playing games ( mind) with the father. The best way to get to a father in a revengeful way is by using his child/children for monopoly purposes. So mothers if you are out there doing this, watch out, because that child/children may have to feed you, bathe you, clothe you, plan your nursing home and plan your funeral. Don’t let your unfortunate experience of not having your father in your life trickle down to your child/children, mainly your girls cause they are watching you carefully. Don’t let your unfortunate fatherless childhood have you being negative towards your child/children. The sad thing about it is you may not see the damage you’re inflicting on your child/children until it’s too late.
Two of the biggest barriers a father encounter when it comes down to custody is the judicial system and the department of social services. These two agencies alone can have a father respond to his situation in a negative fashion while becoming distant from his child/children. While the infrastructure of the family is at stake a lot can happen in a little time. One, the child/children will begin to suffer spiritually, mentally, psychologically and emotionally. They may have to grow up fast without enjoying their childhood and the trauma goes with them into their adulthood.
Law makers need to write and adopt legislation on fatherhood concerns. Once this is done a father will have more assurance that he is not mislead in the judicial system when it comes down to any type of custody pertaining to his child/children. The judicial system can use a revamping of it’s current laws, policies and practices as it pertains to fathers rights. Changes need to be implemented in the department of social services as well when it comes down to fathers.A program ran by the government for mothers and children need to be changed from it’s current name to, " P.I.C.". When this happens it also show no discrimination based on gender.
It’s now the time for law makers, politicians, legislators, Congress and The Senate to act now on more legislation on/about fathers issues. It’s now the time for these people to no longer avoid the issues of fatherhood in terms of legislation. It’s time for these people to no longer conceal any information from fathers that would be pertinent and relevant of the relationship between a father and his child/children. It’s time for these people to revitalize, reform and reconstruct the infrastructure of the judicial system, the department of social services and child support agencies. It’s time for these people hold staff of the above agencies 100% accountable for their professional courtesy, their motives for any and all wrong decisions and anything they may lack that will show incompetence.
It’s time for these people to recognize all the components of the judicial system as it pertains to a father’s rights and fatherhood there of. A change in the above would produce more positive attributes from a father to his child/children. Children would be more mentally sharp, more emotionally stable, more psychologically coherent, more spiritually grounded, and more economically centered. All this can and will happen when the negative barriers a father faces are destroyed, relinquished. terminated, demolished, abolished, forfeited and eliminated. It’s time for the above agencies to initiate, incorporate, and instill new policies, procedures and practices for the sake of fathers rights and legislation.
