Chris F. Wollinks
Organized in three parts, Betrayal, Sorrow and Tomorrow poetically and illustratively expresses the effects of divorce on the spouses and children. Part I (Betrayal) tries to help the reader keep wedding vows. The first of 53 poems, "The Senses Tell It All," explores problems resulting into divorce and induces the reader to "Give that hugging feeling" to restore the lost luster. Other poems give guidance: “Count Your Blessings," and "Don't Do It."
Part II (Sorrow) explores the painful Sorrow associated with divorce. The poem "Both Wondering Why" wonders why the spouse "did it." Loneness, a traumatic divorce aspect, is expressed in "Alone" and “Really, Really Alone.” The poems then take on a reconciliation attempt and the author expresses hopefulness in "Rebuilding Hope" and "New Start for Two Hearts." However, when reconciliation efforts are dashed, the poet expresses the anguish in "I Tried To No Avail" and "Laying Aside a Feeling"
Part III (Tomorrow) takes on a new twist as the poet turns to finding love. The desire to live ("I Will Live") fights feelings of sorrow, as "What I Want, What We All Want" expresses desires. The poet explores the desires of the heart and the reasonableness of the mind.
Your mind must make the decision
Navigating away from a collision
Of heart and mind going blind
But rather of heart and mind that bind
Stating that the mind and heart must agree, a perfect match for the poet occurs only "When Love Meets Intellect."
Find out if the poet finds love.
Throughout the poet provides several poems about helping the parents deal with the effects of divorce on the children. The poems "Win Your Children's Heart," "It's Not Your Fault Kids," "Loving That Child," "Visitations" and "Good Father Forever" should be read by every parent going through a divorce.
Given the sensitivities to the author’s children and former spouse, the author chose not to use his real name. Thus, Chris F. Wollinks is a pen name, chosen for because it hides the gender of the author. This was done deliberately to emphasize that not one gender is more at fault then the other spouse.
The author recently went through a divorce, went through the emotions of betrayal, neglect and abuse. There was intense questioning inside the author’s mind whether he/she contributed towards the betrayal, neglect or abuse. Feelings of reconciliation were explored and given a chance. When those feelings were rebuffed, the author gave up. Turning to the search for love, the author explores what he/she is looking for. Does he/she find love?
The author writes poems about love, politics and situational matters.
From: COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
…Your blessings you should count
And do not have any doubt
A moment of pleasure
Is not worth the measure
From: Win your Children’s Heart
For children divorce can be devastating
Know that from the beginning
Remember they are so fragile
So please go the extra mile
Do not do anything in malice
For your children will pay the price
Pay the rent/mortgage for God’s sake
If you do not, ill will you will make
Take time to spend time when you can
A night out with them you must plan…..
From: Both Wondering Why?
…Why did she cause the crying all day?
Wondering what went wrong?
Why did he not see his faults?
Wondering where the love went wrong,,,
From: Learning
Now what have I learned
Learned never to make the same mistake
Learned to be faithful to the one I love
Learned to love and be more compassionate
Compassionate each and every day
From: Laying Aside a Feeling
There is something yearning
Something I once had
Something I feel missing
Will the feeling come anew
And make me stronger in life
Will the feeling renew
My desire for the feeling to strive
I long for the feeling today
Hoping it comes tomorrow
For aside I want to lay
