Anne Felt
Anne Felt states it simply in her COACH series: "Relationships fill our world. It is a challenge to create consistently positive interactions with spouses, children, co-workers, neighbors, and even strangers. Humanitarian responses to recent world crises have demonstrated that personal connectedness is necessary in order for societies to thrive. Each person's emotional reactions, attitudes and everyday behaviors affect others and thus shape our world. The author addresses "the need for individuals and groups to become conscious of our impact on one another. In order to create a peaceful and loving world, we must first learn to create love in our families, workplaces, and communities."
Ms. Felt offers practical guidance and simple tools to understand and to maximize relationship effectiveness. "The bottom line lies in raising our Emotional Intelligence - coming from the heart rather than from the hurt spaces within each person's life." Ms. Felt reaches out to the reader with amazing clarity and insight as she teaches us the importance of developing self-love, emotional safety, forgiveness and authenticity. "Loving people do not terrorize the world, nor do they loot, steal, rape, murder their classmates or create wars. This is the challenge that stands before all of humanity at this juncture: learning to love and support one another, and to thrive in a space of peace."
Anne Felt has experienced the highs and lows, peaks and valleys of all sorts of relationships. Through her candor, insights, simplicity and willingness to admit her failures as well as her successes, she invites the reader to walk down the path of emotional and spiritual growth and healing. Anne has identified her mission in the acronym C.O.A.C.H.: Caring for One Another Creates Healing. This is the guiding principle that she seeks to live and to teach to others.
"We all learn best through modeling and mentoring. Those of us who have learned great lessons through difficult experiences are best able to mentor others in their journey to wholeness. It is through this very sharing that we raise our daily interactions and understandings to a higher level. The 'dog-eat- dog' mentality that we see modeled in our competitive and disconnected society is a symptom of what is not working. It is time for wisdom, love, caring, respect, peace and connectedness to replace self-centeredness, power, control, greed and manipulation. It is the 'heart response' that creates peace in each person, each family, and eventually in the world. It is my mission to teach this process. This is the essence of healing."
Anne reaches out to others through seminars, parenting courses and staff trainings, as well as through individual coaching. She is an accomplished public speaker, workshop facilitator, author and coach. She is particularly attuned to emotional intelligence, the newest way of describing and understanding emotional health and healing. Her passion is teaching about self-actualization and the process of reaching authenticity in personal, professional, religious and spiritual arenas. For further information and to contact Anne, go to www.heartfeltcoaching.com.
Why is it that relationships falter? When I say I love you, what happens on a daily basis that proves or disproves that vow of love? How does the emotional closeness happen? What causes emotional distance? How is it that actions speak louder than words, yet words are also the cornerstone of understanding one another? How do I show love, communicate love, and live lovingly amidst the daily challenges, disappointments and gaps in conscious connection? Is it even possible to create and nurture these consistently loving bonds? What do we do with the misunderstandings and the disconnects?
Love is always the answer, and in all ways love must be the most prominent reality of my life. It is so easy to lapse into unconscious patterns, to evade the issues, to sidestep the small opportunities to meaningfully connect. There are excuses and habitual patterns that interfere with loving and emotionally nurturing interactions. Examples include:
· Too much busyness
· Failure to recognize the importance of the mundane events and interactions
· Faulty perceptions
· Avoidance of potential conflicts
· Unwillingness to relate on a deeper level
· Not knowing how or where to begin the conversation
· Fear of intimacy
· Inexperience
These and other factors enter into the loving relationship and create distance. We create gaps in communication related to our fears, insecurities, doubts, desires, dreams, goals, and especially our feelings. These gaps are the entry points for negativity, hidden agendas, resentments and sabotage. As the gaps grow, there are persistent undertones of lack.
