Michael Anthony
This work is based on a true story, written to inform people of what can happen when their relationship ends up in court. A parent who truly loves their child will always want to be involved in their life and can't imagine the sorrow from being disconnected or permanently detached for an extended period of time. Enter in a hostile breakup followed with legal action. Taken from a variety of reports in the media, fathers often become the victims. If any sort of false allegations are made, he is automatically guilty and must now prove his innocence. Attorney fees can exceed a years worth of earnings. This mental torture can drive some men to self-destruct and finally give up.
Not all men and women are alike. A real daddy will do all he can to set a positive example for the child he helped to create. When allowed to do so, he wants to be the one who, with guidance and correction teaches moral principles to their little one. He is civil with the mother and she wants him to be the father to their youngster. A good dad is there and participates in the life of his kid. But in most cases, a child won't have equal time with both parents which can lead to feelings of abandonment.
It is the hope of this author that his story will prevent others from having to experience the suffering and heartache he had to survive in the loss of his only child to a vengeful woman who was supposed to be a loving mother. People should know that this deprivation can happen to anybody. When there's no justification, losing your child to the faulty decisions of a family court is inhumanity at its best.
After
building a wonderful relationship with his daughter, a man tells of how his
child was unlawfully abducted by her mother and he is legally unable to do
anything. For years he enjoyed joint custody until he returned from a job only
to find that mommy packed up and moved far away. Obeying all the orders given
by the court was to no avail. Much of his documented evidence wasn’t reviewed
and seemed to be a waste of time. Orders from five court appearances meant
nothing. Local authorities wouldn’t help so he conducted an investigation.
After he had proof of where his child was, detectives did not assist. He was
forced to accept being helpless and that he would not see his daughter for
several years.
Some aren’t aware of the oppression one
must endure when drawn into a vicious child custody battle where domestic
decisions are made by one person, a Judge. In a malicious litigation, the
amount of men who must spend large sums of money, have their reputations
slandered, are assumed guilty and receive harsher punishments far outnumber the
women. There are no battered men's shelters, no financial assistance of any kind and no government funded agencies to assist him. In most cases it's the child who will lose his or her right to establish a healthy relationship with one or both of their parents.
When
the final decision of the hearings limits the time spent with your youngster, that event becomes emotionally disturbing. Not giving up on your child remains top priority. This story is not about what can happen; it's about what will happen to you when you do not recognize the signs and take the necessary precautions to prevent losing your kid. This book contains plenty of valuable information.
With rain pouring down, I went over and peered into the window of their place; it was empty. For a short time I sat in my car crying, looking at their apartment, then I drove off. I had difficulty believing what I just heard. Cassie knew it would ruin me if she took my only child away and she did this while I worked in Florida. All the court appearances and judgments were a waste of time, they meant nothing. Had I been the one to run off with Amanda, the police would hunt me down like a dog and use lethal force if they felt it was necessary. There is no fairness in a custody case like this. I had to make sure that I didn’t lose control and do whatever I could to prevent myself from falling to pieces. That was a very hard thing to do. My heart had just been shattered and my world was crumbling.
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This New Year began with me being forced to apply changes in my life. I didn’t want to accept my daughter was gone but I didn’t have any choice. It was over. No more prayers at night, no child to read bedtime stories to, no more going to City Park, the aquarium or the zoo. I had been left behind. After she’d leave I’d straighten up her room. Now she wasn’t here to play in it anymore. The little hand prints she put on the windows in my car, I wished I had left them. I taught her to swim, we rode our bicycles and now she’s gone. The echo of what Tabby said; how Amanda may not be the same lovable little girl as before kept playing in my head. In denial I lived believing that one day she’d come home. Her room looked the same way she left it, nothing changed, the door always shut. For me not to feel indignant at all this would be unnatural and to get irate would cause more harm than good. Unlike some men in my predicament, I didn’t react with vengeance. I had to remain hopeful that my pain would go away, time would heal these wounds and I’d live a more productive life.
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After all divorces and separations, life changes for the children. To understand the reason why kids are forced to conform to one parent against the other, a grown person must imagine themselves as a four year-old, a five year-old or a six year-old child. Upon doing so, this participant should realize that they have this young mind now, these little ears and they now see with or look through these tiny eyes at a parent much bigger than them. This tot desires for him or her to love them like a dad or mom should. Little ones, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, will learn what they must do or what they need to say in order to gain the love and approval they so rightly deserve from their parent. What all kids today want the most is to have that feeling of belonging; foremost to their parent or parents. When bruises aren’t visible on the outside, that doesn’t mean abuse isn’t there. It’s the verbal torture hidden in the heart that isn’t seen and many do not regard as abuse. A child who suffers from those cruel memories may not recover or feel like they belong.
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For a variety of reasons including
pro-creation God saw the need for a mate. Now it was time to make another
human. On the second time around, is it possible that He did a better job. Was
there any substance to this or was my thought just a theory? Females mature
quicker and grow faster mentally when there aren’t any emotional impediments
from her parents, a peer or a boyfriend. She has a sharper memory especially
when it comes to the relationship with the man in her life. Statistics reveal
women live longer, handle stress better and many aren’t quick to react with
hostility in a trying situation as some men. Her ability to handle domestic
matters, with or without children is instinctive. These appeared to be traits
of a woman who wasn’t forced to survive several broken marriages or didn’t
waste her early years going from one man to another. Most criminal offenses,
violent or abusive behaviors, and many immoral acts are committed by men which
naturally has women on the defensive. Women must be careful, especially
nowadays, who she dates, marries, or settles down with to raise a family. I was
certain that this study didn’t apply to everyone but it describes many. Once again, I didn't have time to finish this work and would continue my research later.
