DeBorrah K. Ogans
The 21st century has ushered in some extreme, strange, and disturbing beliefs about marriage. We’re living in a day and time where the definition and purpose of marriage is being challenged, and in some areas of our country changed to meet the desires of our society. Laws have been passed in some states that sanction same sex marriage, men marrying men, and women marrying women. Men and women marrying animals may be just around the corner, and if we’re not careful, we may see laws on the books that sanction and encourage this as well, particularly if the animal will be entitled to the medical or insurance benefits of its spouse.
You may say this will never happen. Well, we’re also living in a time where public display of the Ten Commandments is being challenged. It seems our society doesn’t want to be faced with or reminded of what God has said and established for us to have an orderly society. It’s almost as though what we want is for every man to be able to do what he feels is right in his own heart. We’ve been there before.
Marriage is under attack from the outside as well as the inside. Husbands and wives are trying to manage marriage, while society is trying to re-define and re-shape marriage at the same time. We’ve been blinded by the enemy, unable to see the spiritual warfare launched on the marriage which is wounding families, businesses, and the church, resulting in serious casualties.
However, all is not lost if we look to God’s Word, embrace His principles, and apply them to our marriage and daily living. He has already said a number of things pertaining to both.
Holy Matrimony will give you some things to think about, “Now that You Are Married”. It addresses many of the current issues facing married couples today, such as:
Who's Idea was marriage?
Submission
Listening to one another
Marital responsibilities
Sex and Intimacy
When you've been married before
The down side of marriage
It also provides understanding on "Temperament", something given by God which is unique and inborn, and determines how we react to people, places, and things.
Holy Matrimony provides couples with advice and guidance on how to remember, rely, and apply God's word for a healthy and holy marriage. It's also an excellent resource for those who want to protect the sanctity of marriage.
DeBorrah Kaye Ogans has been married to Randall Ogans Sr. for over thirty –three years. She believes when the Word says “Train up a child in the way it should go and when it is old they will not depart.” She is the Mother of five married children, all who have committed their lives to the Lord, and the grandmother of twelve. She holds a Master’s Degree in Biblical Clinical Counseling, is a licensed Pastoral Counselor, and an ordained Minister of the Gospel who subscribes to the fact that ministry is a lifestyle that should go beyond the walls. She is also a member in good standing with the following:
American Association of Christian Counselors
Alumni of American Bible College & Seminary
Alumni of Dayspring University
Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling
DeBorrah is certified through the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling in “Creation Therapy”, which is a Bible based counseling method derived from Genesis 1:1 and Psalms 139:13-14.
Her previous works include a pre-marital guide, "How Do I Love Thee; Things You Need To Know Before You Say I Do". She believes being a Christian is a chosen lifestyle, and is committed to helping individuals, couples and families who desire to learn, walk, grow and implement the Lord’s principles in their daily life. DeBorrah writes for the Counselor's Corner, an online column on www.alpha7ministries.com where she publishes monthly articles addressing various topics to help them establish an intimate relationship with God, which in turn helps them establish better relationships with one another. She sincerely believes in the old adage, “the family that prays together stays together.”
DeBorrah and Randall are the founders of Alpha 7 Ministries, a counseling, music, and new media ministry which embraces as it’s central them to “Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. You can visit their website at www.alpha7ministries.com
TO GOD BE THE GLORY!
Marriage is for two mature responsible adults. One male and one female. Or one man and one woman created by God. It was God's idea from the beginning of time that man and woman co-habit in a loving monogamous relationship.
In this day and time as we look around it should be clear to see anything goes. Pandora's old box has lost its lid. But God's principles are forever. The majority of our television shows are infested with story upon story of lives out of control. People who choose to live any kind of way. Encouraging others to do what feels good to them! Just out-wrongly boldly proclaiming their right to live in sin. Don't get distracted by what you see. God still ordains marriage.
Think with me for a moment. When you find yourself in route to a particular destination and you suddenly discover you are lost what do you do? Perhaps you take out a map. Or ask someone who knows the way? Or just ask anybody you see? Or use your navigation system? Or do you just wander around aimlessly and hope you will stumble your way through.
Marriage is something that must be cherished and nurtured. Some people take better care of their pets and possessions than they do their own spouses. Their careers are really their number one priority. In marriage sometimes we often grow complacent and tend to forget to give the relationship the exuberant attention we once embraced. Please don't allow your marriage to become like a ragedy pair of house shoes! We should treasure our marriages.
The Bible tells us that "God is Love". Regardless of how the Bible defines Love we still attempt to misconstrue its true meaning. We usually identify love in terms of how one makes us feel. We even confuse it with what people do or don't do for us. I suggest we question if in fact it is love at all if God's not involved. Why is that? After all , the scriptures tell us "God is Love". Can you really love somone and not know God? How can love be love without God as the main ingredient?
